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I want to be me again

(5 Posts)
Iwanttobemeagain01 Fri 08-Apr-16 09:04:14

Posted before but NC, since being with dh I've lost all my confidence and am a shadow of my former self, money lies, deleting messages etc has turned me into a paranoid, insecure person. I've put on about 2 stone because I'm so unsatisfied, sex is terrible just him getting what he wants and that's it. He's ridiculously nice to me and really has tried to make up for things but I think too much damage has been done. The past two weeks I've decided to do something about it, I've gone on a diet and stopped drinking. I'm trying to build myself up to be stronger as at the minute I can't leave. I've been doing my own thing and not relying on him. This hit home when we were at one of his work events and a fair few people were saying how did you get a wife like that did you pay for her? I was really annoyed by the comment and dh was offended but he says people have commented a lot before saying I'm a lot above his 'average' I thought why am I doing this to myself? He's treat me like absolute shit in the past, I can't get over this I'm so annoyed.

OnceMoreIntoTheBleach Fri 08-Apr-16 09:48:11

Doesn't sound like he's worth your time IMO, but obviously all we have here is a snapshot.

Re the comments about him buying you (!) just ignore. No normal respectful person would say such a thing. Pay it no attention. Apart from to hear that you are clearly worth a lot more than you are currently getting out of your relationship.

Be yourself. Get yourself back on track to who you were regardless of him. Find your inner Beyoncé!

Be what you are despite him. Then if you do want to make it work, use your inner strength to expect what you deserve.

If he doesn't give it to you, he's not the man for you thanks

something2say Fri 08-Apr-16 09:54:39

Yes I agree.
Sometimes relationships don't work out. And in that instance, its better not to have given over one's whole self.

Bree85 Fri 08-Apr-16 14:27:22

That is good to hear that you are striving to be better than yesterday. Sometimes we have to put our self first, even it means hurting others, to pick up our own self. If he feels like that, you cant do anything about it. He should also help his self. He should be proud that he has you as a wife and not get offended. He should also strive to make his self better.

Keep on your plans and goals, continue to think only of yourself, I wish you luck, good for you. You cannot change him but you can change your life!

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