It's as simple as that really. My own history is been with H for over 20 years, married for 10, 2DC. I went for initial counselling session last night on my own, counsellor wants to proceed to couples counselling. I am in two minds whether to do this - do I really want to? I feel like I should do this so that I can say I have done everything to try and repair the relationship.
I can't predict how H will respond in the counselling situation given that he is a difficult person to talk to (although he maintains he is not angry etc and "why can't we just talk FGS", while simmering with rage visible through his body language). Mine is very much a 'death by a thousand cuts' scenario, involving manchild/trust issues/anger in parenting situation/lack of responsibility and accountability/minimising etc. From my own side I have over the years been too passive, from a dislike and inability to deal with confrontational situations. However I have come to the point where enough is enough, and the counsellor said it is clear I have stepped away from the relationship.
I am not sure whether there is anything my H could now do to make amends, but he feels aggrieved as in his mind he has "done nothing wrong".
Has anyone else been in this position? I suppose deep down I know what I need to do, I just need to find the courage. But it is hard to have the guilt of such a huge decision on my shoulders, I need to know if there is a chance to save it that I have at least explored every avenue.
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