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no friend is she?

(12 Posts)
Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 08:45:15

last night my "friend" messaged me out of the blue. I was quite happy that she wanted to talk to me...how wrong was I. she started off by asking how I am then goes straight into her recent holiday and how she went to this fancy expensive restaurant knowing how we ain't got the money to do that. she always talks about herself. in the 12 weeks since I had my ds not once has she asked how he is.

I'm probably being selfish but I feel like I'm just her agony ain't or someone to show off too. maybe cause she knows we can't afford all this stuff no more it makes her look better? tell me if I'm just being selfish and a bitch or I'm jealous? I personally don't care if we can't afford it as I'm happy for my money to go on my ds.

Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 08:47:02

I meant to say I'm happy that all my money goes on my son and not on days out.

Buzzardbird Thu 07-Apr-16 08:48:34

Are you all she has?

I would just let her talk and wouldn't really be listening. When you don't say anything it might occur to her to ask about you and your ds. Congratulations on your baby.

Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 08:49:55

she has quite a few friends. maybe I'm the only one who listens?

and thank you smile

Joysmum Thu 07-Apr-16 09:10:12

I have money and I have many friends who don't have money.

The difference is that they know I'm just talking about my life, not stealth bragging.

If you believe you're just tgere to massage her ego then just withdraw from the friendship.

Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 09:24:09

I'm probably just thinking how I would be with her if it was the other way round. if it was me I'd probably say "me and x just went away and had a meal" wouldn't mention the price as I would think it would upset her. I don't know I'm probably just being melodramatic and more hurt that she's not asking how my ds is when of always ask how her DP and family are constantly.

TheNaze73 Thu 07-Apr-16 09:33:35

I think people that boast about stuff like that are missing something in their life, bit like those people who check in when the go to the Ivy on Facebook. That's the last thing most people would do. Don't let it get to you, she's the one with the issue here

Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 09:36:44

I do feel sorry for her at times as she's had a horrible relationship before her current DP and I was with her through it all but I've been in a DV and ea relationship too and I don't actually like her. I don't know, I agree with you naze I do think she has some issues.

Joysmum Thu 07-Apr-16 09:41:07

wouldn't mention the price as I would think it would upset her

Yuck, that's just crass and clearly a boast as there's no need to mention costs. Combine that with the lack of interest in your life and you've nailed it, you're nothing more than an admiring audience to her sad

Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 09:59:10

I was thinking that. I just thought I was being selfish but now someone else has seen it too maybe I'm not going mad.

Joysmum Thu 07-Apr-16 10:36:14

Nope, you're not going mad and it's sad you have doubted yourself like that.

This need not be a drama, just take any opportunity to delay replies to her and put her off till it all fizzles out naturally without a confrontation.

Ahappynewmummy Thu 07-Apr-16 16:11:55

luckily she messages late at night so I can use the excuse I was asleep. I don't have many friends as I shy away when I meet new people so she is one of the few I have/had.

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