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Jump right in! It's Dating Thread 102

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IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 06-Apr-16 14:33:53

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will.
12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)
13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.
14. IF THEY SAY THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP, THEY DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP.

DrFoxtrot Wed 06-Apr-16 14:43:26

Woohoo Freaky I need to update myself on the last messages of the old thread. Fingers crossed for good luck on this thread smile

IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 06-Apr-16 14:50:10

Oh, this is definitely going to be a lucky thread! Not least because this WILL be the thread on which I actually have a date (for anyone not keeping count, my last date was 30th Jan...wayyyyy back on thread 95...piss poor showing! grin)

DrFoxtrot Wed 06-Apr-16 14:59:46

We all can't wait for the Bacon date!

IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 06-Apr-16 15:14:05

haha! I love how my total over-investment has infected the thread! It would be hilarious (though also disppointing...) if we just don't fancy each other grin

Anyway, I have set myself a goal that even if the Bacon date doesn't go ahead (no reason why it shouldn't, I'm just being cautious!) that I wil have a date with an actual real life man by the end of this thread...even if I have to resort to horny 20 year olds on OKC or fat 50 year olds from Zoosk.

Goldfish21 Wed 06-Apr-16 15:51:39

I'm another one looking forward to the Bacon date! (Reading about it, I mean. I'm not planning on turning up and playing gooseberry!)

I've just joined OKC and it's proving, um, interesting. So far I've had a message from someone asking if I'm really single and saying he's seen me in a bridal show(??), another message which makes no sense at all, and a third from someone who lives in Switzerland!

And what's with this 'Enemy' thing on there?

JustEat314 Wed 06-Apr-16 16:03:35

Yes, roll on Saturday! I was to have been out with mr canceller but so glad to be utilising the booked babysitter to go out with my friend now. phew. At work now, so daren't look on pof but hoping for a message from Mr NN later. I will do a workout first though. I will check when I'm fresh from the high of a work out.

JustEat314 Wed 06-Apr-16 16:04:34

Sorry, Dr NN wink

tanyadm Wed 06-Apr-16 16:05:16

Enemy on OKC is where you've answered questions differently. Can be useful for weeding out racists/homophobes etc.

The question about people re-appearing in Tinder, means they have deleted and restarted their profile.

Handy! OMG! Buses, these menfolk!

Placemarking, date on Sunday, a couple of other prospects. Was too ill to go to a Match night with Ladylou last night.

IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 06-Apr-16 16:12:29

Yeah, I do like the OKC questions, very helpful for weeding out people that you are just not going to get on with.

I do find that people I left swipe on Tinder do come round again...have sneaking suspicion that those are the ones that right swiped me but may be wrong on that front. If you right swipe you generally never see them again unless they delete and re-reg.

Hope you are feeling better now Tanya

Fingers crossed for a message from DrNN later 314

I'm going to yoga tonight after missing a couple of weeks, I can't bloody wait! Totally what I need today.

Goldfish21 Wed 06-Apr-16 16:25:30

Thanks tanya and freaky. That makes more sense now. Definitely don't want racists or homophobes! I've found a few who look promising, so may do some messaging later.

Who's your date on Sunday with, Tanya? Enjoy yoga, freaky. Have a good workout, 314 and hopefully Dr NN will have messaged.

Is there any way of using Tinder if you're not on Facebook?

NineIrons Wed 06-Apr-16 16:26:28

I've had a cull so I'm not nineirons anymore so I'll change my name back.

DrFoxtrot Wed 06-Apr-16 17:31:15

Nine/Anna I have one possible iron called Landscape that I'm trying to nurture.

Other than that there is nothing remotely approaching possible iron territory. 314 I didn't suspect the married match was married, I was just being a bit nosey. The pictures he'd chosen were also old and very flattering - fake advertising if I ever saw it!

Goldfish I had high hopes for Crumpet too but fortunately not high enough to care that much! I've hardly thought about him all day.

JollyX lovely positive belated loo update smile

harriet2802 Wed 06-Apr-16 17:33:41

Handy very chuffed smile I actually mentioned to him did he want to see each other again, I said I'd had a drink and was feeling brave to ask (in a jokey way!) and he said I needn't feel brave as he was going to suggest it anyway, he just doesn't know when he is next off work. I know he's off all week this week so I'm presuming he won't know when until he is back and can check his rota. Hopefully it will be soon as I'm dying to see him again! Haven't heard from him today but like I said, he has a week of activities with his child.

TheDatingDoofus Wed 06-Apr-16 18:24:40

Hello all!

Well my date for tonight, The Doctor, has flaked confused I had a niggle of intuition that he might, because his emails weren't forthcoming at all, so I said "shall I ring to confirm on Tues or Weds" and he said "Yes ring me around 6pm on Weds" - an hour before the date.

No reply!

I'm a bit angry because I could have stayed at work longer, I've got loads on my plate at the moment. But at least I hadn't put any makeup on, thanks to the intuition telling me not to bother until I'd spoken to him!

Goldfish You need a facebook account to set up Tinder, but there's nothing to stop you setting up a brand new one just to launch Tinder. You'll need to confirm a real email address and phone number but then you never have to log in again and if you use a believable but made up name there's no way anyone from RL can find you.

I'm away with work all next week. Wondering whether to set up a potential booty call date or two to while away the lonely hotel hours wink I do go to that location quite often so potentially could meet someone again. Hmm.

TheDatingDoofus Wed 06-Apr-16 18:26:12

Harriet that's great news!

Freaky There is so much Bacon hype grin

Goldfish21 Wed 06-Apr-16 18:48:39

DatingDoofus, thanks for the Tinder help. I'm on POF and have just done a proper profile on OKC today, so I'll see how those go, and if no luck I'll try Tinder.

Really annoying about The Doctor. If he knew he was going to flake tonight, he should at least have been polite enough to contact you and let you know he wouldn't make it. Rude!

HandyWoman Wed 06-Apr-16 18:55:05

Ah that's fab, harriet

doofus call me an hour before was never exactly sweeping you off your feet, I hope you'll be giving him the ghost treatment.

Loving the 'loo' update from jolly

Ooh I love that you've done irons warming, tanya who is your Sunday date?

Freaky another one totally overinvested in the BaconDate.

Come along DrNN get off your yoga mat and get messaging 314

Out for gin drinking date with a friend shortly.

TheDatingDoofus Wed 06-Apr-16 19:02:22

Exactly Handy. Yep he's not getting another chance!

Goldfish the only thing is with Tinder is that there's so few bits of info on people's profiles. Last week I wasted two days talking to a smoker. I've now put "Non Smokers Only Please" as my headline, which is probably not the sexiest thing in the world, but my time is valuable grin

TooSassy Wed 06-Apr-16 19:19:55

Oooo! New thread!

mrfrench has messaged a few times today. So we shall see how it unfolds. grin

I need some advice. Now then, I know we are all messaging multiple people, myself included. But mrtattoo messed up and sent me a message quite clearly meant for another woman. Two minutes after sending one to me. Just as chatty and openly affectionate as the one he sent me.
It's left me a little hmm. It's one thing to know that people are messaging others. It's entirely different to see one sent within minutes of the one I received. Made me feel like I was on a conveyor belt. It's put me off tbh. Is that wrong of me?

HandyWoman Wed 06-Apr-16 19:30:30

Nah Sassy I'd say your reaction is only natural, because it bursts the Moosehunting bubble.

Has he noticed? confused

TooSassy Wed 06-Apr-16 19:36:39

Hey handy yes he messaged straight after saying sorry wrong person. To which I simply replied school boy error.
He still wants to see me on Saturday and I've just said I probably can't make it. Have been invited to dinner with friends in London which will be way more fun give me a chance to meet some new men in RL.

I know it's hypocritical but seeing it in black a white to another woman, just as easy and chatty and affectionate just made me realise that I'm nothing remotely unique or special to him and I'm just a number in a line of women.

tanyadm Wed 06-Apr-16 19:38:20

Oh, we're all so excited for Bacon, Freaky!

Sunday date is with a nice, if a bit funny looking singer and guitarist. I'm in chat with an aged actor and a quite indie looking teacher on Twitter, and there's another couple on POF that I have to do some work on. I've been so busy with kids off school and stuff, that I've not really been giving it much attention, hence being quiet on here. Plus I got a bit fed up of being ignored and lost confidence.

Goldfish21 Wed 06-Apr-16 19:54:40

Sassy, I'd be a bit hurt by that too. How many times have you seen MrTattoo? Has it made you feel you don't want to see him again?

Oooh, Tanya, I like the sound of the singer/guitarist and the indie looking teacher. Where are you going for your date on Sunday?

I've messaged four men on OKC, all of whom look/sound really nice. Really hope I hear from at least one of them, but won't be surprised if I don't. The ones I like hardly ever seem to like me back!

IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 06-Apr-16 20:02:10

Gah, yoga is cancelled so heading home and back put to gym.

Sassy that would bother the hell out of me. Like you say, we all know that multiple messaging goes on but we'd all like to think we are the special one, right? Will you see him again?

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