Hi All,
DP and I are having a few rows as of late. I think a lot of it is about my own insecurities rather than what he's doing. He has an ex wife, separated 3 years and official divorce came through 2 and a half years ago. I'm not the OW, we met shortly after they separated but didn't get together until a while after the divorce came through. They have a DD together who he sees often and I've always liked the fact that for the most part they have a very amicable relationship. However lately she will text him asking him to do something for her and if he doesn't reply immediately she will bombard him with texts and then say their DD needs to talk to him until he phones her and then of course DD doesn't want to talk anymore and has just run off. Last week she asked him to help move something for her twice. The first time I was okay with, he did it on a time he was picking up / dropping off his DD and didn't need to go out of his way. The second time though she insisted it had to be done that day. I'd actually wanted to spend time together as it'd been a stressful week and I thought it'd be nice for us to do something together. He didn't ask me if I'd had plans just assumed it would be fine and off he went on a one hour return trip plus about one hour moving this thing. He injured himself in the process which then meant our plans for the next day got scrapped.
On an unrelated (but in my mind interlinked) issue, whenever we try and discuss the future of our relationship it feels like it falls on deaf ears. It feels like I can't even talk about the future yet here is somebody who he married, had a child with and is still running around after. I don't know if it's just my own insecurities. Re the ex wife he says he wants to have a good relationship with her for the sake of their daughter but also that he really struggles saying no especially when in his mind there's no real reason to say no. Would this bother you or is it just my insecurities?
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Feeling insecure - would this bother you or is it just me? (ExW related)
FaithLoveandHope · 06/04/2016 07:28
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