I've been with my DP for just over a year and a half. He moved in around Christmas time.
Great guy, loving, caring, good cooks,helps around the house, funny and generous and my 2 teenage sons get on with him great.
He has chronic insomnia. I totally sympathise as I've had periods in my life where I couldn't sleep. But it makes life hard as a couple sometimes.
He has always slept quite poorly and his lack of sleep is the only thing we argue about. He's a very light sleeper and wakes up at the slightest sound. He tends to fall asleep really quickly but if he wakes up it can take him 1- 2 hours to get back to sleep. To make matters worse we live in a 3 storey house and my DS13 bedroom is directly above ours. We can hear him moving around, his phone buzzing and when he goes to the toilet. None of this is terrible noise but in the middle of the night it becomes magnified.
He isn't rational at this time when he wakes up and he gets very annoyed, can't get back asleep which becomes a viscous circle. I am a light sleeper too, so hear him wake up then we end up having a heated conversation at 3 am! He then goes on his phone which doesn't help.
He uses ear plugs, doesn't drink coffee after 6pm, we bought a new bed. He exercises loads (he works in the fitness industry) but his sleep situation makes him miserable and bad tempered.
It's a real issue in our relationship when he has a really bad night.
Anyone have any ideas?
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BG2015 · 05/04/2016 10:43
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