Since last year I have been romatically and sexually involved with my friends father. It sounds bad and I don't think this can ever come out into the open in a positive way but it really isn't so awful as it sounds. I am 24 and he is 43 his daughter was my best friend in high school and he divorced from his wife when we were about 16. It was never a good marriage as they only married because they got pregnant.
He got a flat in town and my friend would go up and weekends and sometimes I would tag a long. We liked it because it was in town where the excitement was and because her dad was nice.
Even when my friend moved away to uni and I attended a local uni I use to drop in on him now and again. When I started work I got a room in a shared flat in town near to where he was because the area was affordable and I saw him even more. If I wasn't going out or home for the weekend I would just go round to his and we'd get takeaway and watch a film or tv. It made me feel less lonely to spend time with him.
In the past year though things have changed between us we started spending more and more time together and last year after a few to many he kissed me. I should say we tried to cool it off but if I am honest we just fell into it. I did keep thinking we'd get it out our system but if anything it is getting more intense between us and I don't want to stop seeing him and I hate hiding it, I love him and he loves me.
I know we haven't met in the most conventional way but we are both adults so why should it be so wrong? I don't think it is but I know that being open about us would horrify my parents and upset my friend very much. She still lives in another part of the country but I still see her a few times a year the last time at christmas was really awful because I knew what I was hiding from her. He wants us to be open to but he is worried about how it will affect his daughter and his ex wife.
Is there anyway we can do this and not hurt people?
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Can we come out about our relationship without hurting everyone we love?
dreamingcity · 05/04/2016 00:55
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