I'm wondering why at the grand age of 35 I'm not over this by now?
I grew up in a very tense, unhappy household.
Loved dm but was terrified of df.
He was extremely 'religious' indeed everything was extreme about him. Only the rules didn't apply to him, just to everyone else. He had a very normal life but myself and my sister were force to be very restricted in our lives.
We were not allowed to;
Have friends outside the group
Listen to music
Be part of any social groups, girls brigade, brownies etc
Wear makeup
Wear trousers
Participate in any hobbies
Wear any jewellery or get ears pierced
Do homework on Sunday!
Go to the cinema
Stay over with friends
Watch tv
Go to school formals/prom
We were forced to join the group aged 14.
There are a litany of other 'not allowed to do'
Anyway I have long since left the group.
I keep in touch with my parents for the sake of my children and they've really mellowed in latter years indeed df has expressed a tiny bit of remorse at how he was. Never directly to me but has indicated to my mother.
Anyway the issue: I've recently got v small and discreet tattoo and had my ears pierced.
It's like I've committed a cardinal sin. Parents are furious with me! Did I mention I'm 35?
I really feel like I a child again and trying to justify and explain that I'm allowed to.
I feel sick with anxiety when I'm near them.
I just want to live my life and not be controlled but I can't shake this fear.
I'd never deny my daughter all these little 'rites of passage'
How do I deal with my parents?
Sorry this probably makes no sense
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Why can't I get over this? Missing important childhood events- extreme religion - am still terrified of father
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FrickinPeppaPig · 04/04/2016 21:46
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