I just need to put my thoughts on paper and hopefully get some advice.
I've been seeing someone for 6 months now who I met on OLD.
At first I couldn't believe my luck he was kind, thoughtful and seemed very keen on me too!
When we first met his work was going through a dry spell so we spent quite a bit of time together possible first red flag was he told me he was falling in love with me after 2 weeks . I must admit I was so taken aback I just said "me too" - big mistake I know!
Anyway now his work has hit a really, really busy spell and he now has to work insane hours, which believe me I have every sympathy for him but still I've not seen him at a weekend for about 3 months.
Recently I was reading an old magazine and came across an article "Are you his rebound?" and realised as I was reading I could answer yes to most of the points raised.
I'm his first relationship since he split up with his wife over 2 years ago. The split was due to her having an affair.
He said he loved me way to soon and our relationship feels to me like a weird mixture of moving fast yet I still feel on the outside of his life.
When he stays midweek I feel like we have settled into an old married couple routine, although he does make the effort to take me out if he's not too tired.
He makes promises now that he doesn't (can't) keep and gets annoyed when I bring it up.
Although we hardly see each other at weekends, he makes plans to help out other people at a weekend and leaves me on my own to do this.
Recently when I had not seen him in over a week when I did see him he spent the evening telling me how he thought his ex was now regretting the split.
The above are just a few points, I know myself I'm too reliant on him but I find it difficult to make friends, everyone i know seems to already have their own group of friends and I'm not good at pushing myself forward to include myself.
I am going to look into joining a meet- up group in my area to get out a bit more.
Thank you for reading, any thought are welcome although I'm fairly sure the consensus of opinion will be to cut him loose!
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Am I his rebound? Plus some red flags?
cluelessinthecity · 04/04/2016 09:02
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