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Can we have a lovely thread about lovely relationships?

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trashcanjunkie Sun 03-Apr-16 22:28:36

I've had some fucking shit over the years, proper wanker family stuff, nc from half of them, and also some terribly abusive relationships. It reached a pinnacle about ten years ago and I was a single mum of three for about seven years. I was often very, very lonely, but totally couldn't imagine being in a successful relationship, as I didn't believe there was such thing for me.

About five years ago I was introduced to the loveliest man, and after a year of getting to know him as a friend, we got together. Everything about how we got together was heartwarming. We have been a couple for four years and we moved in together about a year and a half ago. We're getting married next spring and I'm bloody excited to be a bride for the first time at 38. He's all of the things I could have wished for - seriously. I feel so lucky.

I'd love to hear about others happy relationships. I never believed this could happen for me, and I'm wondering if others have similar experiences?

slumbalumba Sun 03-Apr-16 22:33:38

Very very early days for me but after leaving an abusive marriage I've now met the sweetest man you could imagine. He is so kind and caring and thoughtful. He makes me melt. We're inseparable. I still can't get my head around how different it is.

MadameCholetsDirtySecret Sun 03-Apr-16 22:44:24

I left an arse of an ex husband and after a couple of years of dating some nice chaps, I started a relationship with DH. He is truly the kindest man I know.

Coldtoeswarmheart Sun 03-Apr-16 22:46:12

My DH is lovely.

deVelvet Sun 03-Apr-16 22:46:47

I was one of those people who thought arguments and misery were just normal. In fact I thought my sister was bullshitting me when she told me that she never argued with her husband.
I excused the constant arguing with 'passion' and claimed that my sister had no passion in her marriage.
Jeez, how wrong I was!

I am in a relationship with a lovely man, we blended our two families - him and his 3 sons and me and my dd.

I like myself now I am with DP, he allows me to just be. Every night when we go to bed he tells me how happy he is to be in bed beside me and have our children sleeping under our roof.
We support each other through everything.

We are affectionate towards each other all the time and we have taken each others children into our hearts. We are lucky to have each other.

Life is a struggle, as it is for many, but we work together and know we will always get through together.

It's nice to be able to post this. Thanks for starting this thread

scribblegirl Sun 03-Apr-16 22:50:54

Ive been with DP for 4 years. He's not perfect and I certainly am not! But I adore him down to the very bones. He is the only one who knows how to pick me up when I'm down, he's an amazing man and he makes me laugh until my tummy aches smile I've been with some pretty crappy guys before but frankly? I just think he's the best human I've ever met smile

Iflyaway Sun 03-Apr-16 22:51:43

I wan't more of these stories...! grin

JassyAlconleigh Sun 03-Apr-16 22:52:37

deVelvet your post was gorgeous and brought a tear to my eye.

OP, what a lovely idea. I wish you very well indeed in your new adventure!

My DH is a saint. A great bear with a huge soft heart who's man enough to be kind to everyone.

He likes me and loves me and we take care of each other with tenderness and respect. He brings me a drink every evening at 6 and we talk about our days and potter about making supper.

The gin must be the glue and clue to love!

I didn't know men like that growing up; I realise now they were aggressive to mask fear and inadequacies. Oh and because they were little tossers.

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly Sun 03-Apr-16 22:53:15

Another one here who thought bullying, controlling tactics were normal (my dad was the same as my ex, so I knew no better).

Found the courage to leave (after a few incidences of physical violence) and met my dh after 9 months.

He is selfless, kind, lovely in every way. He was in an on-off relationship when we met at work. When he realised he had feelings for me he broke it off before asking me out. May not be a big thing to some, but to meet someone trustworthy and honest enough really amazed me. I'd only known liars and cheats so my standards were low hmm

He's changed me for the better - I'm much more confident and happy these days.

AnotherEmma Sun 03-Apr-16 22:55:37

Congratulations OP and others who have found happiness after unhappy times smile

"Everything about how we got together was heartwarming."
Please tell us the story! I LOVE hearing how happy couples met and got together.
#hopelessromantic

notagiraffe Sun 03-Apr-16 22:56:34

My DH is lovely too. He's really calm and stable and definitely a family man. He loves spending time with DC or going out as a family. He shares housework with me 50/50, give great hugs and also makes me laugh every day as he has a very silly sense of humour.

flightywoman Sun 03-Apr-16 22:58:09

I met the peerless Mr Flighty 10 years ago when I was nearly 41, he is utterly the best man I have ever met, and is without equal. I compare every man to him and they all pale in comparison. Truly.

I had some absolute shockers in the past - the junkie (I didn't know he was a junkie), the one that tried to fuck all my friends (and succeeded with one), the one that went off with my best friend, followed by the one that went off with another friend, the one who asked me marry him, then dumped me then told everyone I'd chucked him! So I was pretty sick of cheating, lying scumbags and idiots.

I spent 10 years pretty much single.

But Mr F...he's just awesome! Kind, thoughtful, generous in all ways, loving, affectionate, puts up with my ridiculousness, never criticises, never makes me feel bad. And he has never, ever let me down.

I don't know why he was single, but I'm bloody glad he was. All those women who never gave him a second glance missed someone so very special, and I love him with all my heart.

deVelvet Sun 03-Apr-16 23:00:44

Thank you Jassy
It's the little things isn't it, like your DH bringing you a drink each evening at 6pm - these are the little insignificant things that just make life good.

scribblegirl Sun 03-Apr-16 23:03:55

Oh - if I can be allowed to add one massively cringe comment -

We were watching the old Charlie and the chocolate factory on Easter Sunday. And if you know that film, there's the song 'I've got a golden ticket'?

He turned to me during that and said, very simply and without fanfare (as is his way):

"You're my golden ticket"

It sounds silly but in the context of that song, it's one of the most romantic things anyone's ever said to me blush

JassyAlconleigh Sun 03-Apr-16 23:04:15

Yes. Little acts of kindness.

He always does the bins as it makes me feel
sick <delicate flower>

SerenityReynolds Sun 03-Apr-16 23:06:12

My DH is the most generous and kindest man I have met. He is sweet and the most amazing dad to our DC. We have lots in common and I just feel so comfortable around him. Plus he puts up with me!

FreakinScaryCaaw Sun 03-Apr-16 23:06:13

Exdh is a decent bloke and we get on well as does my dh. I also get on well with dh's exdw. But Dh is perfect for me. Great in the house, lovely step dad, hard worker, fanatastic lover. grin

I could go on.

I have kissed a few frogs in between but they only make you realise what you really want.

AnotherEmma Sun 03-Apr-16 23:06:28

scribblegirl That's lovely. Not silly at all.

Fueledwithfairydustandgin Sun 03-Apr-16 23:20:02

I'm very lucky as my husband is my childhood sweetheart so we've grown up together. I know it sounds strange but I have loved him/been obsessed with him since I was 5 ( he took a bit longer blush )He is the most amazing person. Before him I was angry and insecure and slowly he has given me the support to be myself and be happy with that. He spoils me in every way possible. With love, affection, compliments and also anything I want he will do his best to make it happen. He is exactly the same with our son and I love watching him being an amazing dad and role model. I look at so many men being macho and I love how secure he is in himself to be kind and gentle And have a laugh and be silly. Writing this has actually made me a bit emotional!

WhoaCadburys Sun 03-Apr-16 23:21:04

My DH is lovely. Been together 19 years this year smile. He's another bear with a big heart. He is never, ever, nasty to anyone, is gorgeous and kind, patient, intelligent, shrewd, and can make me guffaw.

I'm very lucky.

cocochanel21 Sun 03-Apr-16 23:34:16

I didn't think it could happen for me either.

I had Dd1 at 15 and brought her up myself from the start with the help of my family. Longest relationship was 2 years. I was happy on my own I thought all men were users.
I met now DH on a work's night out when I was 28 he was really nice and completely different from anyone I had met before. We couldn't have been more different. I actually cancelled our first date because I thought he couldn't really be interested in someone like me.
We've been together 10yrs now. Meeting DH is one of the best thing's that's ever happened to me. My life is totally different from where I started out all those years ago. He's kind,caring,and always there for me no matter what.
Last year we had a unplanned pregnancy, Dd2 is now 4mths. It's so weird watching him with a baby after all these years together. We couldn't be happier.

justdontevenfuckingstart Sun 03-Apr-16 23:40:09

After my ex husband got his mistress pregnant it all went to shit. On the day me and my children got evicted from our house they flew to Greece. Was homeless. Few years on am now a home owner again with a lovely partner and two very lovely girls who are ready to flee the nest. Heartbreak again bit good luck to them.

butteredmuffin Mon 04-Apr-16 00:21:19

I've been in a long distance relationship for five years. In the beginning I used to stress about it constantly, saying it would never work because our jobs would keep us apart for too long. Every time I was going to see him I would think about how I really ought to end it before we both got too emotionally attached, but I didn't know how. I didn't want to break up with him over the phone, but I also didn't want to turn up to see him for the weekend and break up with him as soon as I got there, or spend a lovely weekend with him and break up just as I was about to leave. Eventually it became clear that neither of us actually wanted to end it, so we decided to just keep going and see how things went. Five years later we are still together, still long-distance, but hoping to live together from next year. We've had some wonderful times together. We never argue, even though I am a very argumentative person! We just love spending time together. We don't know where we will live or how it will all work, but we can't wait to start properly being together, get married and start a family. He is the nicest, kindest man I know.

DramaAlpaca Mon 04-Apr-16 00:26:50

I can't imagine being without my DH. We've been together for 28 years, married for almost 26, he's a wonderful husband and father and he's my best friend who understands me better than anyone else.

WhatTheActualFugg Mon 04-Apr-16 00:34:59

DH of 15 years has been tickling my feet all evening.

He deserves starhalowine

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