My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me about 2 months ago. I love him more than anything, we had plans, we love each other so much. He'd become depressed about 7 months ago and gotten worse every day. The medication wasn't working and he was becoming more and more distant. I knew he didn't feel anything anymore. He couldn't feel happy, didn't really feel sad, just empty. For the month before he ended it, he wouldn't touch me, or look at me, but he avoided everyone, not just me. He talked about things only when I asked and broke down a few times about how he didn't want to wake up anymore, or saying he's scared about the future, he can't picture anything anymore.
He ended it saying he didn't want to drag me through hell anymore, he still really loves me, but I deserve better. And I tried to tell him I wanted to be there for him but he just kept saying he wasn't good enough.
Since then we've kept in touch and I still text and go to see him. I'm still there for him because I know that no one else is and he doesn't talk to anyone else about what he's going through. We've been sleeping together since we broke up. I still love him and I know he still loves me -- he still says he does, but he can't drag me through what he's going through.
My friends are telling me to break off all contact but I can't. I can't move on because he means so so much to me, and it feels like there's still a chance we might get back together. I tried to tell him what my friends said and he just broke down. He doesn't want to stop talking to me as much as I don't. He says he doesn't want to move on either, he doesn't want to see other people, he just wants to get better. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. Is it bad to keep seeing him? I can't just leave him to go through this alone.
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13shadow · 01/04/2016 20:09
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