We have been married for 7 +years together for 10. Two DS youngest 8 months . DH is a good man, works hard, honest, doesn't cheat etc. We used to be very happy with shared goals planned 2 children together but we have been struggling for 5 years now since pregnant with DS1. DH loves ds1 but says he hates the majority of time he spends doing childcare or doing family things as he would prefer to be doing his hobby and is bored. From the outside he is very patient and engaged playing with DS.DS1 adores him. He did not want a second child, and only agreed to make me happy. He would not hold him for months as he could not bare the crying of a baby with reflux. I feel that he sucks the joy out of family life.
The second problem is that he can't stand most of my family and will not make an effort with them. My parents split up so family are precious to me. My brother tried to rip me off financially about 8 years ago at a difficult time in his life but has apologised and made it up to me financially. I have forgiven but not forgotten and we have a good relationship now but dh will not make any effort with my family. He either refuses to come or comes and is foul with a frown on his face. . This weekend there was an extended family party weekend. He came for the minimum of time, refused to drink socialise or join in the party at all. We had a big row about this behaviour at Christmas and I said that I no longer loved him . He has been anxious about our relationship since then and I have reassured him but yet again he has behaved badly. This time I haven't even voiced my upset and anger. I dispair. This doesn't seem bad enough to end a relationship and split up our family but things are not good. Any advice?
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WWYD husband does not make an effort with my family
olympicsrock · 30/03/2016 01:10
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