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I had a friend that I have known since play school.. When we both lived in the same village we were very close. But now we have our own lives we regularly fall out and don't talk for long periods and then get back together and friends again for short periods. I feel like I'm very forgiving of a lot, sometimes she will arrange things and cancel at short notice or if I arrange to see her, I will be there but she doesn't get in touch till I'm on my way home or won't get in touch to confirm till the actual day or day before and I'm expected to drop everything to see her. In order to avoid falling out with her again, most of last year that's how it went. Unfortunately though at the beginning of November I arranged a birthday night for her birthday and paid for it as a present and thought it would bring us closer together. However shortly after I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy to be pregnant, I really was but after previous miscarriages I didn't want to tell anyone. Anyway the night before her birthday I started to have pains and bleeding we went to he hospital that night but they sent me him I panicked and got very down, my partner was very supportive, but the hospital said sometimes these things happen and as the bleeding wasn't heavy at that stage not to worry and carry on as normal. I though had a feeling it was bad news and got very down the next day, my friend tried to get in touch with me but I didn't feel like talking to anyone. She got upset that I wasn't responding and deleted me off her social media accounts and told me she didn't want to see me again. I was pretty heart broken that my friend had done that but I couldn't handle her upset along with my own. A couple of days later we had a scan and found out my worst fears I was miscarrying and the baby had stopped developing about 5 days earlier. It was a very traumatic experience. I didn't speak to my friend for weeks, but one day I just decided to message her and tell her what had happened and have a go at her basically for reacting like that. In my eyes there had been numerous occasions where i put up with her dropping me at short notice and all sorts but j had always been there for her. The one time I needed her she couldn't be arsed to even message me to see how I was and check j was okay. I wish we could sort things out but I feel like there is too much that has gone wrong to out it right too much has been said.. Can anyone give me any advice about how to deal with a situation like this ?
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Friendship argument following miscarriage
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Love2014 · 28/03/2016 13:12
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