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Police just left :-(

(151 Posts)
PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:16:17

The testosterone fest of the last few months culminated in DS & DH coming to blows tonight & the Police being called. DS is sleeping at a friend's down the road. We have filled in the DV paperwork. No-one has been arrested yet. It's been fairly crap for years, but nothing like this. sad. My big tough 18yo was in tears sadsad

SugarDiabetes Sun 20-Mar-16 23:18:43

I'm so sorry to hear this. It must have been dreadful. Your poor DC.
Who called the police?

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:20:28

I did sad at DS's request. Entirely appropriate I think. DH was completely out of control & I couldn't pull him off DS.

Glastokitty Sun 20-Mar-16 23:22:35

I hope you are telling your 'D'H to leave the house!

Where is your H?

cupcakesarah Sun 20-Mar-16 23:24:30

Sending you unmumsnetty hugs OP
I don't know your situation, but I would hope that this visit from the police would lead to some change or realisation by your DH.

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:24:31

I could tell him till I were blue in the face but he would take no notice. He did agree with the policeman that counselling would be a good idea - expect he'll change his mind as he's always refused in the past.

Waltermittythesequel Sun 20-Mar-16 23:25:05

Why has your son left and not your husband??

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:26:04

Reply was to Glasto

to Truth & cupcake H is here in the house, as am I. All is calm, we have a spare room, the Police have told me to ring if I have any concerns. I'm not overly worried. DS will be back in th morning.e

ScarletForYa Sun 20-Mar-16 23:26:44

Get him put out! Your husband not your son.

cupcakesarah Sun 20-Mar-16 23:27:18

Do you think that you'd need to give your DH an ultimatum, or would he still not listen?

Waltermittythesequel Sun 20-Mar-16 23:27:49

You should have had him arrested.

Your poor son sad

Chippednailvarnish Sun 20-Mar-16 23:27:53

I'm sorry to be harsh but by allowing your husband to stay and your son to leave, you have sent everyone involved a very clear message.

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:28:32

Walter - the Police said one of them had to leave. DS threw the first punch as DH was provoking him (burping & blowing the burp into his face on purpose) so assault came from both sides. DH has bitten a horrible mark into DS's arm sad

Easy for DS to walk to his friend;s DH has no friends & at 18 he is an adult.

Can't believe it's come to this. Been planning my escape for a while but was hoping to hang on till DS finished school.

cupcakesarah Sun 20-Mar-16 23:28:43

I agree, your husband should be out of the house, by keeping him in, you're telling your son that you're okay with his behaviour, as you're willing to kick the son out for the night

ItWillWash Sun 20-Mar-16 23:28:48

I think I've misunderstood something here?

Your husband attacked your child to the point your child asked for the police to be called and now your child is the one who has had to leave his home?

That can't be right?

Waltermittythesequel Sun 20-Mar-16 23:29:21

Your husband is a fucking animal.

Are you ok?

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:29:49

Poo DS didn't want his dad to get into trouble sad

I thought the Police dealt with it very well really.

antimatter Sun 20-Mar-16 23:29:49

is your DH father of your DS?

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:30:02

*Poor DS not Poo FFS!

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:30:16

Yes DH is DS's dad

cupcakesarah Sun 20-Mar-16 23:30:16

I'm sorry about my previous post, do you think you can escape sooner? Do you have any friends or family that can help? Have you been in contact with agencies that can help?

LizKeen Sun 20-Mar-16 23:30:54

Exactly what Chipped said.

I understand that you must be very shaken and probably not thinking clearly, but your husband should be the one who spends the night elsewhere, not your son.

How long has this been going on?

BastardGoDarkly Sun 20-Mar-16 23:31:36

He bit him?!

Oh my god op, you need to get that bastard out before your boy comes back.

PestilentialCat Sun 20-Mar-16 23:32:07

I'm not unhappy with DS's having to leave - it was the easier option. He is a grownup at 18 & was happy to go to his friend's. He was also violent.

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