My DH took voluntary redundancy from a job he had been doing for 10 years, but had got bored with. He got another job straight away, but after 2 months, quit, saying he felt bullied by his boss and was extremely unhappy there. Now this has happened to me, and it's awful, so I was supportive. He has struggled to find another job, so I have increased my hours to full time and he has become a SAHD. He hates it. I hated being a SAHM, so again, I understood how he feels. My problem now is that he seems to be spiralling into depression. He has always had a tendency to negativity, whereas I try to be positive. He keeps saying 'You just seem to take everything in your stride' but I have given up my own business to go back to teaching full time to support him. It's really wearing going to work all day, thinking it wont be forever and that we can have a fresh start in a few months to be faced with his negativity. I encouraged him to do some courses in his time off, but he gave them up. He has a teaching qualification, although he hasn't done it for a while, so he did some supply just to get out of the house. He hated it. We are moving out of London, which was our long term plan, but he thinks he'll never get a job outside London, and now the move was suddenly all my idea. I had started my own business, but have mothballed because I need to work. It is something we could do together. When I suggested it, he just put a downer on it. I feel like he's dragging me down into negativity, and I don't know how to help him. His dad had a tendency towards depression and made his mum's life a misery. She put up with a lot. I don't want to. But I want us to get through this and have a good life.
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don't know what to do about husbands low mood
raisedbyguineapigs · 18/03/2016 23:38
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