Dh has a poor relationship with his father. FIL is a very difficult man. He seldom makes contact and when he decides to fit in a visit to his gc it's entirely on his terms. If we aren't available on the date he suggests that'll be that until he decides to try to slot us in again.
He dislikes me and it's mutual. I don't fit his image of the ideal wife for his son: I work, I have ambition and a mind of my own. He's said some horrendous things to me and has also tried to suggest I've been unfaithful and that dd2 isn't dh's.
Anyway, he lives 150 miles away and has 'invited' us to stay for a few days. Last time FIL saw the dc he played some sort of tickle fight with dd1 who is 8. Recently she mentioned that granddad tickled her lots. I asked her if she liked it and she clearly felt she couldn't say no. I had a conversation at that point that it didn't matter who it was, if someone was doing something to her body she has the absolute right to say no.
The thought of staying in the same house as FIL makes me feel almost physically sick. Even with us there, I can't go through with this.
I have told dh that I'm not going to allow them to stay in FIL's house. Dh is doing his usual non-committal thing of not being straight and saying no. I know this is his dad we're talking about.
Am I being ott here?
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I know I'm being daft but I really don't want my dds staying with FIL
2ndSopranosRule · 18/03/2016 19:19
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