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What is his game?!

(9 Posts)
needresolution Fri 18-Mar-16 11:30:25

Why cant exh leave me alone?! Going through divorce at the moment. I've moved out and in the process of buying my own house with the kids - he's bought his.

He's taking the kids on holiday for a week at Easter - all fine, then he text me last night asking if I want to go! I said no then he said I'm sure you will have a nice time on your holiday shame about the company you keep!

I've been seeing someone since we split and he may move in with us (don't know if I'm ready) I said what has it got to do with you?!
He said I could do so much better!! - he doesn't know anything about my partner!!

I gave him a chance of reconciliation last year on a holiday but he decided he had to go to work - surely if you had a chance of saving your marriage you would have gone off sick or spoke to the manager?! But he expected me to go away with him and his sister!!

I said I'm sick of his personal attacks and I'm trying to be amicable for the sake of the kids but its wearing thin...

He swears constantly on FB - all his so called mates mock him on there.
Is this just jealously?! I'm just trying to get on with my life FFS!!

magoria Fri 18-Mar-16 11:36:41

Dog in the manger.

He doesn't want you but how dare you moved on, have a life and not sit around pining and waiting for him to snap his fingers.


LineyReborn Fri 18-Mar-16 11:37:45

I think it takes time to move on. If you were offering reconciliation as recently as last year - last summer? - then you need to unmix those messages.

And thinking of moving in the new man with you and your DCs - I would say it's far too early.

As for FB, I would stop reading his stuff if it annoys you so much. FB just causes stress IMO.

Take some time for you and your DCs, and I hope you love your new house.

AndTheBandPlayedOn Fri 18-Mar-16 12:20:36

Yes, he may be having a game with you...but you are in no way obligated to participate in it. Detach. Ignore anything except factual communications concerning the dc. Make your boundaries.

Pinkheart5915 Fri 18-Mar-16 12:23:47

You gave him an olive branch last year on the holiday and he had to work, so he clearly did not want to try and save your marriage.

Sounds to me like the old classic doesn't want you but doesn't want any body else to have you either.

Continue to move on with your life, just ignore him and his silly games

Cabrinha Fri 18-Mar-16 12:26:17

Your life is too close to his right now. What on earth are you doing having him on fb?! (and so what if he swears on there? disengage

Does your boyfriend know you were trying to get back with your ex last year? Or when you say you've been with him since the split, do you just mean to emphasise it was AFTER the split? Way too soon to be moving in together with your kids, so I'm not surprised you don't feel ready - hope he's not pressuring you.

needresolution Fri 18-Mar-16 14:53:53

True - I do need to disengage.
Ive been very unsettled since the split - maybe trying to move on too fast. I don't want to make stupid mistakes - I don't think I'm ready for moving in together just yet, I'm happy on my own tbh

Suddenlyseymour Fri 18-Mar-16 16:24:49

Your kids really won't be anywhere near "ready" for another man to move into their home. So soon for that?!

AmserGwin Fri 18-Mar-16 16:33:43

Why are you friends with him on Facebook? You don't need to see what he's doing every day and vice versa. I'm not friends with my ex on fb but he still sees the kids etc, keeps in contact by phone/FaceTime etc. Delete him!

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