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I want a quiet life

(115 Posts)
chocolatebiscuitsplease Thu 17-Mar-16 15:47:58

Hi, I am in a miserable marriage that is on its way out but suspect it's going to be a long and horrible process because my DH is a pig and I just want some friendship/support 😞

AnotherEmma Thu 17-Mar-16 15:52:09

Here to hand hold. Have all the flowers chocolate cake wine!!!

Openmindedmonkey Thu 17-Mar-16 15:52:39

Hi chocolate, here's a hand 👋 & an👂too.
You sound like you're in a very unfair & unhappy place, which is no place to be.
What do YOU want to happen next? That counts for at least as much as what he wants!
Do you have DCs?

Openmindedmonkey Thu 17-Mar-16 15:53:41

That was meant to be a holding hands not a weirdly wobbly wave!

Openmindedmonkey Thu 17-Mar-16 15:54:03

Ggrrrrr.... *hand

ponymad9 Thu 17-Mar-16 16:32:11

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Hissy Thu 17-Mar-16 16:53:48

A hand to hold from Me too. Xx

VitaSackvileVest Thu 17-Mar-16 17:02:07

A hand to hold from me as well

LaContessaDiPlump Thu 17-Mar-16 17:13:25

Here with cake

AnyFucker Thu 17-Mar-16 17:20:02

Hello there.

AdoraBell Thu 17-Mar-16 17:20:17

Another hand to hold thanks brew

MrsArthurShappey Thu 17-Mar-16 17:23:22

Friendship and support is what we is innit? cake wine

BirthdayBetty Thu 17-Mar-16 17:28:21

Here with brew

TwoLeftSocks Thu 17-Mar-16 18:08:00

Tea and cake from me too, a quiet life sounds like a good goal in life brew cake

Guiltypleasures001 Thu 17-Mar-16 18:26:08

I'll be revving up the get to fuck cab to keep it warm for him op thanksgrin

Bree85 Thu 17-Mar-16 18:31:43

I am also with you. I hope everything will be alright soon. smile

mix56 Thu 17-Mar-16 18:36:37

so have you got a SHL set up ?

aginghippy Thu 17-Mar-16 18:40:40

flowers chocolate

jayho Thu 17-Mar-16 18:42:01

I'm here flowers

Imbroglio Thu 17-Mar-16 21:14:25

cheers! chocolate brew

NorksAreMessy Thu 17-Mar-16 21:30:16

Supportive Norks here

chocolatebiscuitsplease Thu 17-Mar-16 22:13:09

😊 thank you all for the support, I will gladly take the hands of friendship with a side of wine, cake, tea and flowers... what I want to happen is to go quietly in to a new life of peace but DH is going bitterly in to a place of hostility. That I am this tired already tells me that the fight has been going on longer than I would admit, and now I feel like I am running out of energy and it's only just begun ☹

TwoLeftSocks Thu 17-Mar-16 22:20:21

I'm sure once you get things rolling you'll find a renewed energy. Have you got anything lawyerish sorted yet?

chocolatebiscuitsplease Thu 17-Mar-16 22:27:53

I am seeing two for half hour consultations next week. I can't afford the ones that friends have used, so I am hoping they will be good. How I am supposed to know what 'good' is I have no idea. Anyone out there can tell me what to look for in a divorce lawyer I would be grateful? I had to spend a year with an inheritance lawyer unraveling my mum's affairs, because she died without a will - this was not a large estate just complicated, and I did not like the lawyer at all as things progressed, she was quite horrible, so I am nervous about my own judgement.

Dungandbother Thu 17-Mar-16 22:34:42

I saw two lawyers. One a woman I paid £75 for an hour consultation. She was a man hater and laid it out flat to me about my entitlement.

I didn't want an argumentative ball breaker and I knew she wanted to earn £££

I then spoke to a local small law firm and my lawyer is pragmatic and a bit square. He told me he does Conveyancing on Fridays so he isn't available on Fridays. I liked his honesty. We rub along well. He's been factual and by the book in a silent assassin sort of way.

There's no harm in chatting interviewing them you know.

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