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Welcome to the House of Fun (and positivity!) - It's dating thread 100

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IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 16-Mar-16 15:12:43

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will.
12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)
13. Matthew Hussey also very useful. And very easy on the eye even if you don't find him any good.

JollyXmasJumper Wed 16-Mar-16 15:28:15


brabit Wed 16-Mar-16 15:30:39

I do feel like it is the lucky thread!!!!

MyGastIsFlabbered Wed 16-Mar-16 15:31:00

Woo! Into triple figures!

I am totally guilty of dating this thread/FB group!

IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 16-Mar-16 15:33:15

Definitely going to the the lucky thread! We need to continue the lovely positivity (and snogging) of the previous thread...

HoppingForward Wed 16-Mar-16 15:33:31

Can I come and hang out in here? Not dating yet, still too soon but I'm interested in learning the rules smile

JollyXmasJumper Wed 16-Mar-16 15:33:45

It has to be the lucky thread, we have been through so much shit and being so proactive that we are filling more than one thread a week!

<taps fingers>

Come on Universe, playtime is over, time to deliver now.

TooSassy Wed 16-Mar-16 15:40:11

Place marking. grin

Hoping the thread is lucky for everyone!

ocelot7 Wed 16-Mar-16 15:49:46

Love the title - may this be the thread of fun & happiness for everyone on it smile

Btw - re 21 days - to me thats so short to work on oneself - taken me 4 months & counting....meanwhile I still miss him....

Though I am in awe at what Waving has managed in that time smile

WavingNotDrowning Wed 16-Mar-16 15:49:54

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WavingNotDrowning Wed 16-Mar-16 15:51:49

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DrFoxtrot Wed 16-Mar-16 16:00:52

Hello everyone! I'm hoping to soak up some of the luck and positivity on this thread! smile

Rebecca2014 Wed 16-Mar-16 16:03:46

Wavering glad you are moving on from Soho and fingers crossed MTG stays good.

I started talking to men online again...kept my profile hidden and have been messaging men myself. Currently talking to two guys, really want a date set up for this weekend as im free. Both are around my age (26-28) One of them is a teacher and I find him attractive from his pictures, hoping he ask me out!

brabit Wed 16-Mar-16 16:05:05 we have an FB group?

DrFoxtrot Wed 16-Mar-16 16:07:01

I had a question on the last thread which might have been missed at the end!

What does everybody think about sending initial messages to matches days or even weeks after matching? I usually wait for the man to do the first message but I want to try a new approach. Should I just try it with new matches or is it worth a nudge with the existing ones? grin

brabit Wed 16-Mar-16 16:08:39

I think it;s good to send the first message, shows confidence smile

DrFoxtrot Wed 16-Mar-16 16:08:59

brabit yes we do! Private message MrsRolandRat (or maybe anyone on the thread?) and tell her your Facebook name and maybe a few details to find you, the she can add you as a friend and add you to the group!

WavingNotDrowning Wed 16-Mar-16 16:10:03

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Mag314s Wed 16-Mar-16 16:14:33

I feel like it was a lucky thread too. I know I've no irons that are right, yet, but I feel strong and positive and other things (non men related) have been moved forward.

Waving, can you add MTG on fb?! Deleting soho would be "i never liked you anyway you know!" which nobody ever believes. Better to add a sexy new man I think. If he is on fb?

Suggest a rain check to shymrgreenwich. I think men can be very intuitive too. Maybe he senses your heart isn't in it.

But the FEELING MTG gives you? That feeling is walkig off the screen. That's why I'm rooting for MTG now, and I'm meh about soho ( --this isn't about you mag314--) Maybe the man himself is not the point!

I've decided to focus on that feeling. I tend to appraise a man. But I want a man who doesn't leave me feeling confused either. HATE feeling confused. I have a million other things to get on with and I don't have time to figure out mixed messages.

I like your analogy brabit and I must remind myself of that again as lately I've been feeling a bit too drawn back to Bear. That's because Mr Canceller is a bit of a disappointment. I like him but one step forward, two steps backwards and apology for the step forward!!!! what?!

Can't wait to leave work today. ruby murray with a friend later (a girl friend) + several beers.

jolly, Gast, TooSassy (where ya bin?) and Hopping yes, i feel this will be a really positive thread. I don't know if the universe will give me the luck by the end of thread 100 but I feel I have more clarity now. These threads have taught me so much. Not just about hard and fast rules and standards, but also, how to be vulnerable (mind my bag, yes it's cold, I'd love your coat thank you!) but reminders that are sinking so far deep in to my consciousness now about listening to the FEELING and about not wanting a man who seems great but leaves you feeling confused.

TeaInACup Wed 16-Mar-16 16:15:03

Great name for the thread I'm sure it's going to live up to its expectations, and be lucky for all grin.

The universe will also deliver what we want as long as you're incredibly specific and to the point and know exactly what and who you want

Foxtrot I've sent out messages in the past to matches that were a week or two old and I had quite good responses so no harm in trying.

Mag314s Wed 16-Mar-16 16:16:09

rebecca, batshit and drfoxtrot wine

IToldYouIWasFreaky Wed 16-Mar-16 16:17:51

I frequently do send the first message to matches (too impatient to wait!) but I agree that after a while of no messaging it feels a bit odd. Still, what's the harm? Send a "hello" or something and see what comes of it.
In fact, I matched with a couple of men yesterday, I am going to go and message now...if I can think of something wittier than "hello"...

Mag314s Wed 16-Mar-16 16:18:25

Who was it posted the article form okc about women sending messages yesterday?? I red that and it motivated me to message mad max. I don't know if it will come to anything but that guy I messages yesterday, there seemed a bit of a personality spark there if nothing else. He may not text me as we lives miles apart BUT he didn't ignore my messages.

DrFoxtrot Wed 16-Mar-16 16:20:08

Thanks 314 and Tea I agree, I'm thinking along the lines that I've got nothing to lose by sending older matches a message. The worst that can happen is they don't reply, right?

DrFoxtrot Wed 16-Mar-16 16:20:52

314 I missed that link! I'll have a look on the last thread.

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