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Moving on help!!!

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Soivdoneit Mon 14-Mar-16 21:56:53

For at least 18 months he pretended our marraige was OK, all the time he was travelling away from home and 'working'. I stupidly believed all he told me. I'm a strong woman usually but he dragged me down, I lost my confidence.
24 years we've been together, 3 children, the things I found out he'd done were so out of character for him, I confronted him last summer but he didn't admit it but didn't deny it. It was then in September last year when he said he was working away and he told work he was at his mums that I finally called it a day, told him we were finished.
2 weeks ago I left the marital home, I left our youngest too, I still see him.
I feel betrayed, lonely, lost, feel like I've done mum is miles away, we moved away for him for a better life.
How can someone I loved so dearly not long ago be a man I now hate and never want to see again. How can it ever be good again. How do I move forward? I have good friends and work.

mum2mum99 Mon 14-Mar-16 22:03:48

It seems you feel lonely and betrayed. What a bastard he is. Not denying it in bloke's language is just as good as admitting it. You poor thing. Meeting new people and doing things that make you feel good can help (gym, hobbies, meetups). Make the most of it, there are things you probably could not do when you were in a relationship!

goddessofsmallthings Mon 14-Mar-16 22:16:34

How old is your youngest and why have you left him behind? Are your older 2 dc with you?

Soivdoneit Tue 15-Mar-16 06:45:26

My youngest is 15, I have moved to the next town and his school is where he is, he comes to stay, my girls are 28 and 21 and live away from home.
Luckily iv lots of good friends and it is early days, but I never expected in a million years to be on my own at 52!!
At least the churning in my stomach has gone, as I never really knew when he was coming home.
I still think if he told me the truth it would help, but I know I'm never going to get that.

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