Not to say I have a habit of men not liking me back - I have just experienced both men loving me and not loving me and this one feels like he does that's the best way to explain it.
If I am projecting, no, I have absolutely no idea why I would. No, there's nothing special about him compared to anyone else and he's not massively eligible or a great catch at all - I have better options on that front. Yes, I am in love with him, but I thought he was in love with me for a long time before I started to return that feeling.
I am not creating my gut feeling out of thin air or anything. There are things which support it.
For a start, it’s him who chases after me and has done consistently for a very long time...it's one of those situations where I could snap my fingers and he'd be here. He's admitted he thinks it will always be like that with me. He'd also always be there for me if something was wrong and if I was upset it's almost like he becomes upset too and will do anything to help or sort it out. I've never seen him chase after any other girl the same way or have an attachment like that. We did see each other in a romantic sense for a while (what he wanted) but I ended it due to his actions being conficting and leaving me confused. He acted a lot of the time like most men have done with me in the past when they were in love. Racing to see me like it was the most urgent thing in the world, phoning all the time, asking if he could come over to help me set up my new TV. He admit openly that he has a very powerful attraction to me, a powerful attachment to me, that he's not had with anyone else, also admits he can tell me anything, that he feels happier with me than anyone else and says he has a "love of being with me". He says that when I am gone he gets completely miserable and really misses me. He keeps little things I gave him, like stupid stuff like a wine cork and he obviously follows every move I make online. The way his face changed when I said I had a date with someone else (although we agreed we would) and he just looked so aghast and then quickly corrected his face. Then also the physical things, like the way he looks at me, the way he kisses me, the way he wants to sit awake all night talking and having sex about a hundred times a day even when he's in physical pain from over doing it. The way he keeps every single photo or video of me and has deleted everything else to make space on his phone and he admits he looks at them all the time. The way he smells my hair and actually wants to have those long conversations about childhoods and future hopes and all of that stuff.
But he says he doesn't want to be with me in a proper relationship, which was why I walked away but I do just think that he's in denial because it doesn't seem to match up with many other things. I think he's very confused and doesn't know what he wants.
I did end it and stopped seeing him, but of course I feel pretty bad about it and was sitting there wondering - like you say - if I had just imagined it all :(
Maybe just trying to make myself feel better about being rejected.
Probably. It feels pretty horrible.
Like you say maybe it's as simple as if he felt how i did then I'd not be writing this.
Sorry...can't help but wish for it.