This has been playing on my mind for ages but especially since Mothers day. I feel awful that even though I am so lucky to still have both my parents around I don't cherish them as I should and don't see them enough. Obviously the simple solution is to see them more, they are not so many hours away, and yet something stops me. They are due to visit us tomorrow and I am ashamed to say that I am dreading it. Instead of thinking how wonderful it will be for DD to spend time with them I am stressing about the silent judgements they will be passing the moment they step through the door. My parents are so house proud that the dust barely gets a chance to settle before it is whisked out of sight and DH and I are just not that way inclined and even if we were we have our hands full with a spirited 14 mo. I have lost count of the number of times DM will go on at length about a place being 'filthy' when the average person would not pass comment so I can only imagine what she says and thinks about our home. When DD was a couple of months old and we'd recently had some building work done my Dad wiped his hand accross the mirror and commented on the dust mere minutes after walking through the door. I wish I could just relax about it but it makes it all so stressful. I am making them sound awful and they really aren't, compared to what some people have to deal with it is nothing, I just wondered if anyone has felt the same and how they deal with it. I would love to build a closer relationship with my parents but at the moment I don't know where to start. It sounds silly but I wanted to start a family WhatsApp group as I am much better at messaging than on the phone which I find stressful (introvert) I thought it would be a good way of building up more regular communication, but no-one even responded to my suggestion. Any suggestions for a way forward welcome.
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How can I build a closer relationship with my parents?
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Penguin13 · 11/03/2016 21:16
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