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Quick OLD question

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Crumblevision Fri 11-Mar-16 14:27:50

Been chatting to a guy for over a week, swapped numbers. He said on the first day of chatting that he would love to meet for a drink - would get back to me with dates as he has shared care of his dcs. He has mentioned nothing since on chats - when should I give him a "nudge"? I am really keen to meet him . . . . Thanks oh wise ones 😀

Crumblevision Fri 11-Mar-16 14:43:02


TheNaze73 Fri 11-Mar-16 14:44:50

Just ask him. It's 2016

MissTessmacher Fri 11-Mar-16 14:44:56

I'd send a breezy message along the lines of

"So I've checked my diary and these date suit me for meeting for a drink. Do any of them work for you? smile"

Bree85 Fri 11-Mar-16 18:52:32

Good luck on your date. smile I hope you can ask him.

Crumblevision Fri 11-Mar-16 20:08:49

Thanks Miss and Bree. I asked and he's still up for meeting. He's got various things on (being deliberately vague) and will let me know asap. 😬

Tryingtobenicexxx Fri 11-Mar-16 22:25:21

If it's this difficult to even get a date out of him imagine if you started seeing him.
You would need to book him in 4 weeks in advance.

Summerlovinf Fri 11-Mar-16 23:00:11

He's not that interested but keeping you on back burner?

suspiciousofgoldfish Fri 11-Mar-16 23:11:57

"He's got various things on (being deliberately vague) and will let me know asap"

This is what I did when I was OLD and working my way through first dates with the different men I was chatting to! ( I chose a 'first come, first served' approach, so to speak!)

My DH ( OLD man no. 4, btw) still jokes about it now.

Keep your options open op, you've nudged once and for whatever reason he hasn't arranged a meeting so all you can do is leave it until he does.

Keep chatting to other people in the meantime.

I would be a bit hmm about the fact you've swapped numbers but haven't arranged a meet up - have you spoken in the phone or just text? If so, was it an easy/flowing conversation?

I have avoided meeting people that sounded awkward/ not my cup of tea after having a telephone conversation with them. I would make up vague excuses not to meet up until they eventually gave up....

Hope this isn't the case here though. Good luck!

Crumblevision Sat 19-Mar-16 23:05:06

Update; didn't hear from him. He's since been on the dating site and updated with more pics. I'm feeling a little hurt and rather stupid. Why bother saying yes would like to meet and then chicken out of it and then ignore? You'd think they'd behave in a more mature way over 45 wouldn't you?

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