Iv been with my husband for 6 years married for 4. I'm 31 he's 46. At the start things where good. But for the past 2.5 years he has showed me no affection. I know what you're thinking he's showed you some but believe me honestly I mean none. If I want a hug I have to go to him and he will reluctantly give me one. He never ever makes the first move.he will never kiss me first or touch me I mean like place his hand on mine touch the small of my back my hair nothing he doesn't touch me. Intimacy does not happen unless I make the first move. I will go and kiss him and I get a Half hearted response there is zero passion or want or need. In bed I will hug him he lets me do this for a few mins (I get nothing back) and he will say you're making me to hot p off.
He never asks how my day has been. I ask him everyday when he gets in from work because I'm genuinely interested. I honestly can't remember the last time he said I looked pretty or paid me a compliment years ago. I'll say things like that shirt colour looks good on you or you butt looks great in those trousers but I get nothing back from him. I feel really unattractive but I know I'm alright looking.
I have spoke to hubby several times about this and he always brings it back to the fact my kids are Lazy. My kids are 8 and 14 yes they could do more but they help a bit and he is constantly on their backs he's so negitive. And he says that is why I don't get affection because my kids are lazy. I just don't get it.
We live abroad and my son is in the last 18 mo this of secondary school so I don't want to upend him at a critical part of his education but I don't know what to do I'm crying typing this because I'm so starved of affection from the one person I want it from most. I'm so sad I hug myself so tight in bed and imagine it's my husband. I don't know what to do . Please someone just help me
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Lonely affectionless marriage
Nicolebelle · 10/03/2016 15:45
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