I'm finally going through some stuff inherited from my DF, who died several years ago. It includes family photos, all of which were taken by my DM. There are loads of my siblings, but almost none of me. At family times like Christmas, you wouldn't even know I was there from the photos - the cat features more prominently than me and my DM hated her!
In the year I turned 15, there is a single photo of me and she has written on the back 'Madam's birthday'. Of course, any 15 year old girl can be a little madam at times and I wouldn't have thought twice about it if my DF had written that - I would know that it had been meant affectionately. But it doesn't read as affectionate at all - more as an expression of how she really felt. I might think I was reading too much into it, if it wasn't for the lack of pictures as well: there must be at least 10 of each of my siblings for every 1 of me and there are loads of photos of my siblings together without me in. She must have preferred to take group shots when I wasn't around (I wasn't at boarding school or unavailable for any reason).
I have always known that I am her least favourite, but this has really brought it home. I know it is daft to be upset so many years later and I also know that many many people have far worse childhoods than a mother who is a bit distant and sarcastic. But I can't help feeling and - even though I know this is completely irrational - blaming myself.
Not sure why I'm posting really, except to hear if anyone else has had a similar experience?
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shinynewusername · 07/03/2016 21:02
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