I'm going through a lot of stress at the moment, and as a result my relationship is suffering and I have have been arguing with OH a lot, as a result we are on a mini break of sorts.
Along comes MIL, knowing somethings up to begin quizzing me about it. I've never given OH a chance, what do I want from him, she's spent enough time with him to know what he's like as a partner (?!) 
and accusing me of 'avoiding' her questions...on top of that she claimed to have seen texts between me and my OH, where I wasn't nice to him.
She's simply made a bad situation worse by being nosey and interfering. She has two other sons and does the EXACT same thing to their girlfriends. No one is ever good enough for her precious boys but her it seems. I actually feel more annoyed than ever, that we can't resolve any situation without her butting in.
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Did your MIL ruin your relationship?
DrAmandaBentley · 07/03/2016 20:37
She's his problem, not yours. (Took me 15 years to learn that one 
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I'd had a breast lump & duct removed. Only after the operation & test was I told that it was benign. Mil' s response was, "more's the pity!" That was enough. My 2 dc were tiny at the time & I didn't want anything more to do with her. She'd always been awful, but that crossed a line.
4 years later, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had to have a mastectomy. I'm so glad that she wasn't on the scene, with her nasty comments. It would have been too much.
Funny thing is, when I went nc, quietly, without a fuss, dh stopped bothering with her too. Funny that!
If he wants to see her, (on his own), let him, why would you try to stop him? But you don't have to see someone who is awful to you, that was never part of the deal.
Just step away from the crazy 
Thanks for sharing your experiences, it really is so bizarre (speaking as a mother myself), that someone could be so heavily involved in their adult son's love lives. In my case they are all in their 30's...it truly is utterly ridiculous that we cannot even bicker without her nosing around. And the cheek of her having (said at least), she had read texts to my OH! 
She's come between all three brothers and their girlfriends, and managed to form a very large wedge between my OH and his ex, even answering his phone to her while he was asleep. I definitely won't be letting her get to me again. In fact I have half a mind to completely block her from my phone.
She's gone and blocked me from WhatsApp and Facebook now 
This is all because I dared to have a disagreement with my OH, it is almost comical.
Oh yes my MIL has always been a nightmare and we have been together nearly 10 years now. She is awful to him at times yet he has only recently since we got married started seeing my side and protecting me. She is constantly slagging me off to him saying I'm controlling and money grabbing ( not sure how we don't have any. ) but she doesn't know what goes on behind closed doors as DH always lies to her. He would always rather upset me to keep the peace with her which is so frustrating. She just hates the fact she can't control him and that she doesn't know everything he is doing (he is 30 and we have 2 dc) she will make stuff up to try and trick him into telling her what he has been doing. She asks for things back that she has bought as presents and she adds interest to any money my DH has borrowed in hard times 
she also moans we keep the DC away from her but she always takes out and buys her other grandson stuff but never even asks to take our DCs. She doesn't even ask how they are, we have to go there so she can see them.
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