How obliged are we (morally I mean or otherwise) to maintain sibling relationships because "we are family"?
Are we obliged to maintain relationships with our siblings on the basis that we happen to have emerged from the same womb, even though we don't like them as people very much?
I'm feeling very confused atm and would welcome any advice/insights. (I've name-changed for this btw).
The context is that I come from a large family that was seemingly very close; well, we all maintained that illusion when we were young. We are still close in some ways (well much closer than some siblings I know) but are now middle-aged and have our own busy lives and we all have very strong individual personalities. Since our parents died, a few fissures have started to appear in our relationships. (I am sure I am to blame for these as much as anyone else btw.)
And it has occurred to me that although I love a certain number (trying not to be too specific here!) of my siblings; I don't really like them very much and it really wouldn't bother me that much if I didn't spend much time with them ever again. We have quite different outlooks in terms of politics, religion, attitude to money, ways of living, ways of child-rearing and I just don't seem to have that much in common with them any more.
Dh though says I am closer to them than I think and if anything happened to them I would be devastated.
But after a series of conflicts and minor arguments (that I think reflect more major schisms) I am not sure how I feel anymore.
I know for sure that we are not the "one big happy family" we were all conditioned to think we were.
What do you all think?
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Are we morally obliged to maintain sibling relationships purely "because we are family"
SeamusHeanysaunt · 07/03/2016 14:19
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