DB and I are equally fucked with a long history of MH and both living fairly normal lives now on the surface but we struggle especially in our relationships
Our DM is who we believe to be at the root, she can wind both of us (desperately and separately all at different times) to the point we know we behave in ways that aren't proportionate to whatever it is she's done - like one of us goes NC and it starts out from a fairly minor transgression on her behalf which blows up to a big deal because she refuses to acknowledge she's done anything wrong or attacks us and goes for the jugular as she's feeling defensive - so perhaps a big scene shouting match where she shouts about our MH diagnosis in a public place, or that we're damaging our DC
Both DB and myself who aren't close so we don't get involved in each other's business and piggy back off what she's done to the other, recently acknowledged to each other we both feel the same but it's impossible to put our fingers on what happens and why and to explain it to someone else you sound barking
Does anyone have any idea what I'm saying? The only reason I know I'm not just simply imagining things is that it happens with my DB also - a minor thing she does can bring major conflict
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pigeonpoo · 07/03/2016 09:41
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