Hello, yes I have done this.
Not as big an age gap, but due to the children issue the relationship was always doomed.
Gosh, I wish I could give good advice but can't. I am a sensible woman but you fall for who you fall for unless you have a very strong capacity to block your own emotions.
I went into it, funnily, being the one who was bothered by the 10 year age gap and he was totally infatuated with me and saying age was just a number.
I think I was planning an ego boosting no string affair.
He was planning the hot older woman experience.
I think we both got more than we bargained for.
We fell in love very fast, completely not ever in "the plan" and within a few weeks we probably knew we were in trouble.
I wanted to make a go of things at that point and he felt like he could not consider it as a serious future potential because I would have been 42 or 43 at the age he would be wanting kids and for whatever reason he was talking himself out of it.
Sooo...I wanted things to develop, he wanted us to keep on seeing each other on a casual basis and so I called a halt to it.
He was still on POF and I felt I was living under the guilotine for him to meet someone else younger and leave.
So I ended it.
He was absolutely devastated in fairness, but he still admitted he did not see a future, so what could I do? Several months later and he is still finding it very hard to move on. I know he's been dating someone 15 years younger than me and it hurt badly - but I think he feels nothing for her.
I have been completely miserable without him. We were in love..what can ya do?
I still can't stay with him on the basis of it being for 6 months only for me to be dropped so figured he had to make the choice that I am the woman he wants and we can work out the kids thing. I am still young enough to have them in the next 2 - 3 years.
So I am a month out of walking away and still really hoping we end up back together and I know he is too but nothing would change. I know he's miserable an I am too but life is life.
I really hope you can work it out, it's such a hard situation xxx
PS: I have three freinds who married men much younger, and two gave up thir opportunityto have kids. they loved the woman and so didn't care. It can happen and I DON'T think it is that big a sacrifice as people think or say. I wuld far rather be married to the right person that to the wrong one with kids. And there are many ways to bring children and things into your life too.