I have always had a strained relationship with my MIL, I've been with her son for 8 years nearly and she's always treated me like I'm not good enough for him (but never said anything, so I can't really act on it). Our daughter (Ruby) was born two weeks ago, premature baby, had to be induced. And I don't know if it's just my hormones or if she's actually trying to shut me out.
Whenever she see's my daughter she says how much she looks like her and her son and nothing like me, whenever my daughter does anything (like wriggle her arms out of her swaddle) she says that her son did that, so she gets that from him (not like all babies do that or anything!). When we were in hospital with Ruby she was really struggling with her temperature, MIL comes to visit, takes the blanket off of her and starts taking "decent pictures" for people at work (I did get rather angry and gave her a piece of my mind).
And now we've been out of hospital for 5 days and she wants me to take Ruby out in the freezing cold to her workplace because she's getting nagged by people she works with wanting to see her (I'm still terrified to take Ruby outside, and it's not something I've felt brave enough to do yet). But now she's nagging me about it. I understand it's her first grandchild (it's my mum's first grandchild too) but she is my daughter.
It feels like she's trying to take ownership of her, and with all of the "she looks nothing like you, she's all our side of the family" comments, it's like she's trying to detach her from me.
She even puts in comments about my labor with her, because I said I felt traumatized by it all, she says there was nothing to be traumatized about.
I'm sorry for the rant :/ But do you think I'm just being a bitch or is this justified?
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Is my mother in law normal?
Rubysmummy2016 · 06/03/2016 15:03
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