I've been pondering this for a bit. I was married in my early 20's, ended up on my own with DD in my early 40's and have recently started seeing someone new after being single for a while (I'm now late 40's).
I remember when I met my husband, once we'd established that we were committed to each other, we increasingly developed shared plans that involved moving in together, getting married, having a family, building a home and two careers, and eventually growing old together. The final part of that plan didn't happen, but pretty much the rest did.
So, I've been seeing someone for a bit and it's struck me that it's not so easy to 'contextualise' a relationship at this point in my life. I should say that I have no idea if the man I am with sees us together in the longer term (although I'm thinking I'd probably like this), however, in general, when building a new relationship at this point in life, what are your shared aims? What do you focus on for the future?
I can think of lots of advice I'd give my younger self about what to think about when committing to someone in your 20's/30's, but I'm suddently confused as to what this means when thinking about the second half of my life. At the moment I'm thinking about holidays, mutual love and support, lots of sex and lazy lie ins (free from getting up with toddlers!), but that all feels a bit decadent!
Would love to hear of people who made a success of their 'second life' relationships and what the differences are.
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New relationships in your 40's/50's - what are you working towards?
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ladylouanne · 05/03/2016 20:07
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