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Would you find this irritating?

(117 Posts)
lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 14:53:31

I've been seeing someone for about 2 months and finally we had sex last night. However, he kept on saying 'you're mine, I'm yours' over and over. It really ruined things for me and has now put me off him. Would this put you off?!

karigan Sat 05-Mar-16 14:55:19

Yes. A bit creepy. sad

TealLove Sat 05-Mar-16 14:55:20

Yes would be v off putting for me anyway.

diggerdigsdogs Sat 05-Mar-16 14:56:30

8 weeks and he says this?

Yes, totally off putting.

lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 14:58:06

I'm glad it's not just me!

lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:03:13

Would it be a deal breaker for you?

wickedwaterwitch Sat 05-Mar-16 15:05:41


TealLove Sat 05-Mar-16 15:06:12

I would just feel a bit yuk and go off him

Soapmaker34 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:06:55

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lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:08:10

Yes Soapmaker I'm afraid so. The problem is that once I go off someone that's it!

Soapmaker34 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:11:20

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lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:18:45

Yes, he's kind and respectful. He's also only the second man I've encountered who was good at oral. However, I think this particular thing has put me off unfortunately. It's just weird.

TheNaze73 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:19:07

Sounds like a wrong un

lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:20:01

Abisive Naze?

Soapmaker34 Sat 05-Mar-16 15:23:13

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TealLove Sat 05-Mar-16 15:23:16

I i don't think its abusive just really quite sad

lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 16:15:03

Sad because it's desperate?

Savagebeauty Sat 05-Mar-16 16:16:50

Did he say it while he was DTD, or since?

TealLove Sat 05-Mar-16 16:22:07

It's sad because it's such a drippy thing to say. Couldn't he just have kept it to himself? But I'd have to know more about his personality if I were to call him desperate. What's he like generally?

ravenmum Sat 05-Mar-16 16:23:31

During the act ... that is a strange thing to say. I'd think he was a bit weird too - might ask in a light-hearted way if the always says stuff like that when excited and see how he responds. But if there were any other weird vibes that made me feel uncomfortable, I wouldn't want to go there.

RudeElf Sat 05-Mar-16 16:23:59

My exp used to say (exactly) this over and over and would get annoyed when i wouldnt repeat it to him. He was very possessive.

lottielou7 Sat 05-Mar-16 16:41:55

Yes, it was during sex. It's definitely not the thing to say to me of all people really. I don't think any of my other partners have ever said such a thing. It's almost like he's trying to seal me into some kind of contract.

I do find him rather clingy generally.

TealLove Sat 05-Mar-16 16:53:55

Ah if he's clingy generally then it's something to flag up.
What do you want to do?

OurBlanche Sat 05-Mar-16 16:59:09

Oh, I am sorry, lottie. But I suspect that I would have giggled and ruined the moment entirely. How on Earth did you manage not to laugh at the time?

Definitely a very good reason to end it now, I couldn't be doing with that, and the future possibilities are a bit scary too!

DadOnIce Sat 05-Mar-16 17:01:05

Was he singing "Jailbird" by Primal Scream?

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