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Chatterbox88 Wed 02-Mar-16 02:25:25

So me and my partner have been together 2 years.. We have a comfortable relationship.. Until he asked me to move in with him.. I panicked!! I diddent wanna get that close and got soo scared I started to push him away, I have had bad relationships in the past and have alot of trust issues... Leading up to the main story anyhow.. We had a break up for a month last year.
In this time I found he was talking to his ex and was convinced he had slept with her.. We are back together and I have a feeling they are still talking.
My partner constantly accuses me of cheating on him when I have always been faithful... Which makes me think somethings going on angry.

Soo to my regret a few days ago in a moment of confusion.. Anger.. And stupidity. I had met up with a guy who I had been talking to and we'll did the deed as some of you put it on here.

I was at my peak ovulation and we didn't use protection! I know I have got a couple of weeks till after comes and I realli hope she does but I'm driving myself nuts and I realli don't know what to do.. I feel sick to my stomache.. I was thinking if it turns out I am pregnant.. Then I will have to tell him the truth and if I'm not I can carry on like nothing happend.. I'm just freaking out here

RavioliOnToast Wed 02-Mar-16 02:54:43

I think you need to just call it a day. There's no trust, on your part more than his it seems, and you'll forever have this secret hanging over you. You need to Either tell him, or finish with him.

RiceCrispieTreats Wed 02-Mar-16 02:58:06

Listen to your gut. Don't "carry on as normal" : you are uncomfortable with the idea of moving in with this man because he is jealous and controlling. There is nothing wrong with you. Acting like your girlfriend is about to jump into bed with every guy is the biggest red flag around.

Now, you did jump into bed with another dude. It's shabby, but you are not the first and won't be the last, especially as you're probably doing it as a get-out from a relationship that is stifling you.

Sex without protection is a foolish mistake - actually the bigger mistake here. Learn from this mistake. Take a pg test in a week or so; they're pretty sensitive these days and can give you a reading if there's been implantation.

So don't panic. Dump the boyfriend - he's not making you happy. Dump the escape hatch guy - he's no salvation either. And sit tight an rake a pg test when its time.

OurBlanche Wed 02-Mar-16 11:37:00

Look, subconsciously you have set out to truly sabotage your current life. You may feel you need to put it right, carry on as though nothing happened but why?

You have given yourself, albeit it in a very self destructive manner, a perfect escape hatch - not the new bloke but the emotional break, the sex, your infidelity.

Your current partner's obssession with your cheating has now become a reality. Act on it, walk away, from both men, and concentrate on you.

I can't imagine why, having acted so out of character/recklessly you don't feel brave enough to carry on and just say "Fuck it" and move on. Go on... just do it!

Summerlovinf Wed 02-Mar-16 14:44:24

Yes I think you're subconsciously telling yourself you want out of your main relationship. Be careful don't need a drama or crisis to get out of it...just end it if you're not into it. Fingers crossed you're not pregnant.

PrincessBooBoo Wed 02-Mar-16 16:04:58

Go and see a doctor for the morning after pill, you still have time to take it

RiceCrispieTreats Wed 02-Mar-16 20:07:06

-laying ovulation. If ovulation already took place it is useless, but you can get a coil put in to prevent implantation.

RiceCrispieTreats Wed 02-Mar-16 20:08:39

Huh, the first bit of my post is missing. It read: "MAP works by delaying ovulation. "

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