Name changer, will try not to drip feed.
I really need to know that I am doing the right thing... I need to know if anyone has been in my position and how you managed to stay 'together' mentally.
I've been married for 13 years, to a man who I love and still do. We've had some of the most amazing times I could have ever wished for. We have 2 dc.
However, he has a problem with drink, drugs and rank online sex chat profiles. It's been constant. I have caught him every time my instinct tells me to look. The first time I found out was by accident, I've never been one to snoop.
I have tried and tried and tried to talk to him about it. I have trusted and trusted and trusted him not to do it again. It's finally the end of the line for me and I've told him so. Here is the tricky part. He tells me he had no idea that I meant what I was saying... for all of those years. (I think because I have been seen to allow it just by forgiving him.) He is utterly devastated. And I want to be kind to him and our dcs. Especially the dc's. They love their dad and he loves them...
I don't know how. I am scared. Really scared for me, the dcs and him. He's not unstable or anything, it's not that - it's just the anxiety of the change about to hit us.
Any words of wisdom?
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Can't do it anymore
gustofwind · 25/02/2016 16:36
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