The last few times I've had sex with men they've gone soft during it, and occasionally not been able to cum. I'm starting to feel really down about this, like it's something wrong with me, and it's really affecting my confidence.
I was with an ex for 9 years and this never happened with him. He would always been rock hard, and never seemed to struggle to cum. Since that relationship ended I start seeing someone who frequently went soft, and could only cum through stimulating themselves. They said that this was completely normal for them though so I just accepted it and it wasn't a problem. However, since then I had a one night stand, it was all good the first time, but the next day we started having sex and after a while they just went completely soft and didn't cum.Then this happened again with me with a different man last night aswell. What the hell's wrong with me?
I haven't got the best body in the world, bit of a mum tum, stretch marks etc, but I'm a size 10, alright face (I think). I'm quite confident in bed, but like being submissive so I usually let the men take control (which doesn't seem to be a problem). But could that be the reason? Could my vagina be too loose?
Please help, I'm loosing all my confidence and feel hideous. I don't really feel like having sex with anyone ever again because of the rejection.
It might be worth mentioning that all the guys had been drinking alot, and are users of other drugs like weed and coke. But still, if it was one person I'd think fair enough they have an issue and it's not a problem for me, id happily just accept it as part of our sexual relationship, but this keeps happening so it must be me. I feel so down about it.
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Is there something wrong with me? (sex related)
Superhumancrew · 25/02/2016 11:42
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