My boyfriend and I broke up recently (we're only 18 and we were only together for a few months, just a disclaimer so no one unknowingly wastes their time on such a insignificant issue).
This is how we broke up.
He was coming to my city and we were supposed to go ice skating and then watch Deadpool. On the day, I found out that the rink had closed down (despite the webpage with all the prices still being up), so I looked for another rink a bit further away. He refused to go to that rink because the uber was 'too expensive'. I offered to pay for the uber and he said 'No, we'll just watch go to the cinema and then do something else afterwards'.
This was like an hour or so before we were due to meet. We met up and things were going pretty well until he started complaining. He'd say things like 'You're such a rubbish planner' and 'I took a whole day out of revision' and 'Today was an okay day'. I got a bit annoyed/upset so I just stayed quiet as I walked him to the train station early.
When we both got home, we argued about it. I told him that I didn't think I had done anything wrong, because I tried to find an alternative for the ice skating but he rejected it, even though I offered to pay. He kept saying that I should have tried harder to plan something else after he rejected the other ice skating rink. I tried to tell him that I didn't because 1) I don't go out that much so I don't have a list of things to do in my city ready in my head, and 2) I didn't have the time to research more places in the morning (I was literally trying to find out how to get to the other skating rink while taking a bath). His response to that was 'you're always making excuses'. Which I'm not.
He then started ranting about 'You never plan anything, I always plan everything, You did no planning for today. I thought of the cinema and the ice skating idea.' It's true, he does most of the planning, but if he had just told me that he'd appreciate me planning more dates, I would have agreed and tried to change that. But he didn't say that, instead he decided to be a dick. Still, I said that I'd plan more dates if that would make him happy.
I still didn't think I was in the wrong for not planning an alternative to the alternative ice skating rink. He said he was 'amazed' that I didn't think I was wrong.
Anyway, we argued about it for a bit, and then he started sending a long monologue about how he can't take this relationship anymore (with even more personal attacks), and we broke up.
Was I actually in the wrong? I'm willing to accept it if I am. The relationship is over and I don't have any desire to get back together with him, but it would be good to know for future reference.
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Was this all my fault
Deadpool · 25/02/2016 01:27
Congratulations. You've dodged a Grade A self-entitled and self-absorbed twat and I'm full of admiration for you having 'walked him to the train station early'. Way to go! 
At just a few months into your relationship it should have been more than enough for him to meet up so that he could gaze into your eyes and revel in being with you. Complainng about a last minute change of plan due solely to necessity and begrudging the 'whole day he took out of revision' shows that his mind wasn't set on you.
Keep your standards high and don't be tempted to lower them for any of the pondlife that you will inevitably meet as part of the dating game that will form a colourful swirl on your life's rich pattern.
Enjoy your youth. Have fun and don't tie yourself down until you meet the exceptional man who is worthy of the exceptional you which, hopefully, won't be for a good few years yet.
After 30 years my DH still comes home from working away and simply revels in being with me. Whilst I find it a bit OTT sometimes I could never have stayed with him if, a few months in, he had not been all calf eyed when with me.
He has let himself down really badly. Fortunately, you being sensible enough to check with Aunty MN, he has done no harm to your sense of self and you can now spend some time with friends laughing about your happy escape from such a twonk
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