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Just checking on this, bit (more) advice please.

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RyVeeta Wed 24-Feb-16 17:49:58

Had to go 200 miles at considerable expense yesterday to support ds with something. No getting out of it, absolutely HAD to go. Spent 24 hours with (disabled) ds, soothing, calming, supporting. In between times dh was with dds, one of whom (at nineteen) had a tantrum and was a pain. Final straw was this morning, dd's appointment was cancelled. Spent considerable period of time ensuring his safety, calming, soothing. He has an ASC so cancelling not good. Was then told can't claim for fares etc. and can't reschedule when he's home from Uni, so got to do it all over again in a couple of weeks.
Now, bear in mind dh has been very poorly and talked of suicide only a week ago, although I don't think he would.
I hopped back on the train today, got to the station, went shopping for family and got home. Dh who hasn't had a lot of sleep was resting in bed. Dd informed me that he was awake, so I went to see him, filled him in on stuff and then said 'Right, you going to get some sleep now I'm home'. This is apparently something I do when I've had enough of him. I don't, it's not true. I've been to hell and back over the last 24 hours. I'm shattered. I asked him not to do this and got 'well stop confusing me and telling me what to do'. Was I wrong? I'm tired, emotional, angry and I cannot see clearly whether or not he was being a completely selfish twat or not.

CooPie10 Wed 24-Feb-16 17:55:25

You seem to be under a huge amount of stress. thanksgiven the day you had he was being selfish. Sounds like he wanted a bit of pity. Just leave him be for now.

RyVeeta Wed 24-Feb-16 20:17:59

Thank you, wasn't sure if I was being over emotional or not. Was also shocked that he could do this, still am, actually.

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