I have recently come out of a 9 month long affair with a man who was living with another woman. It ended with her telephoning me, telling me that she knew I was phoning him, that they were planning to get married and I should leave him alone.
In fact, we had been talking daily, and had met up, and slept together, several times.
On the phone I acknowledged that I had been phoning him, but nothing more. The relationship with him has ended.
I am now (and I realise that it's 9 months too late) wondering what the 'right' or 'best' thing to do is in relation to telling his partner. Is it helpful/ hurtful for her to know that he had been sleeping with me, and intensely involved with me, in light of their marriage plans (which I knew nothing about)? Is the least harm I can do just to back right away?
Not expecting any understanding for the relationship, and prepared (I think) for anything thrown at me, but also genuinely want to know if people think I should tell this women an important part of her partners very recent past.
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Do I tell his partner?
Conversation16 · 23/02/2016 05:25
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