So, oh of 13 years went out yesterday afternoon around 1pm taking the car supposedly to do some work (self employed). Now its almost 3pm and he's still not back. He ended up out last night I presume with friends who live around an hour away. He knew I needed the car back yesterday at 5 told me he was driving home. 630 came, nothing. 11pm I had a what's app saying love you and all this other bollocks. Clearly been drinking. I ignored it. Went to bed. 730 am his worker knocked o the door waiting to start work, told him oh had done his usual disappearING act. He told me that my oh had called him and told him he was on his way home and to start without him. Well it's 3pm and no one has heard from him. His phone is switched off presuming battery and the bloke in think he is with his phone is off too. I have contacted his usual haunts and he's not there. Sigh.
FFS I need to grow a pair and leave this man.
Been like this for years and yes I know I am the only one who can change things. Gotton too comfortable here now. Financial wise doing okay. Emotionally it's hell.
We also have alot of assets together meant to be building a house this year which has started. We have 4 children together eldest is 12 youngest 8 months. 2 successful businesses (one being mine) why is he such a knob??? Why can't he grow the fuck up??? It can be good 50 percent of the time. The rest is horrid.
Do I move out live life as a single mum and struggle for 4 children, give up my horse who.I have had for years and my escapism??
Or suck it up, do my own thing and put up with being treated like a mug??
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3rdbump · 21/02/2016 14:59
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