We live about 400miles from my parents and we have a fairly distant relationship but I try for the sake of my DC since DH's parents are deceased. I call occasionally but they don't call me. I text news of the children but get little or no response. I post them pictures that the children want to send them which I think are well received. They won't Skype. Last time I saw them was last Easter when we visited. We can't stay there as their house is too small and I have a severe allergy to their beloved cat.
I invited them to visit us just after Christmas but they didn't feel they could travel at that time of year even by air (I always offer to pay for flights and a cattery). I have just called DM to see if they wanted to visit us at Easter but she has other plans. Fair enough. I have asked if we could meet up with them for a day in July on our way to our holiday destination. The response was ambivalent and lukewarm. They don't work but DM has a hobby/interest which means she is invited to run workshops internationally. This seems all she lives for and although she gets stressed at the amount of prep it involves she never turns down an opportunity. And that is why I tried to give plenty of notice of our plans but maybe not enough.
So why am I posting? Well although our relationship isn't great I feel the need to keep trying for the sake of DC. I am just tired of making the effort. I have to psych myself up to call and I am generally teary for a day or so afterwards. She is not a bad person but.... Lots of buts. I miss my DF. He won't visit without her. I resent the fact that they seem to care more for their cat than their grandchildren. Certainly more than me. Just sad.
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KiteyDelighty · 20/02/2016 18:09
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