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Guardian article on cheating husband

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Claraoswald36 Sat 20-Feb-16 09:30:24

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/feb/20/my-husband-has-stopped-cheating-on-me-after-35-years?utm_source=esp&utm_medium=Email&utm_campaign=GU+Today+main+NEW+H&utm_term=157754&subid=14731450&CMP=EMCNEWEML6619I2
Hoping the link works.
I found this utterly depressing and made me want to scream!

Destinysdaughter Sat 20-Feb-16 09:32:18

Link didn't work!

Claraoswald36 Sat 20-Feb-16 10:01:48

Feck

Claraoswald36 Sat 20-Feb-16 10:09:56

here

Kirk123 Sat 20-Feb-16 10:17:49

I have just gone onto guardian website and read it , omg silly woman treated like shit by a man !

BendydickCuminsnatch Sat 20-Feb-16 10:19:46

That's really fucked up shock

ijustwannadance Sat 20-Feb-16 10:20:34

Already a thread on this.

sadsister4 Sat 20-Feb-16 10:21:10

What a waste of a life.

I would wager he was wanting her to confront him. No passwords, shagging other people in the next room, etc.

Very strange dynamic going on there.

Claraoswald36 Sat 20-Feb-16 10:22:18

Ijust - where?

suzannecaravaggio Sat 20-Feb-16 10:27:24

Article my foothmm
It reads like someone's homework from their creative writing course
It's made up imo

ijustwannadance Sat 20-Feb-16 10:32:27

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2575030-to-think-that-any-man-who-takes-35-years-to-stop-cheating-on-his-wife-is-no-prize

Yseulte Sat 20-Feb-16 11:38:12

Suzanne you're aware that many women stick by philanderers for life? How d'you think they go about rationalising their choice?

TheNaze73 Sat 20-Feb-16 11:45:06

I'm with suzannecaravaggio I think it's made up. If, with the 1% chance that article was actually real, why would she share that?? Fantasist nonsense

Yseulte Sat 20-Feb-16 11:50:24

She sounds so much like other women who've made the same choice that there's nothing in the account sadly that is any way implausible.

You can't believe perhaps anyone would be so self-deluding, but it's not uncommon. You see exactly the same thing in abusive relationships.

suzannecaravaggio Sat 20-Feb-16 12:08:07

Yseult I'm not disputing that people forgive and rationalise the actions of cheating partners

The account however reads like fiction, because of the writing style.
I'd say its a fictionalised conglomeration.

Yseulte Sat 20-Feb-16 12:15:56

It's not so much as forgiving and rationalising, more choosing to self-deceive.

What particularly about the style?

Offred Sat 20-Feb-16 12:17:27

Ugh I read it earlier and have commented under the article a few times.

I think made up or not it perfectly describes the mindset of women who choose to 'turn a blind eye' and 'keep the marriage together'.

It's not about the kids at all though many claim it is, it's about 'winning' at any cost and keeping up appearances and not really giving your children a second thought.

Yseulte Sat 20-Feb-16 12:23:04

What I means is facr can be written as fiction, fiction was fact, you can't really tell from the style unless you know the person.

Yseulte Sat 20-Feb-16 12:23:22

*I meant

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