I contacted an old male friend that I had been in touch with up until my first child was born. Over the years I had been meaning to and I finally did and it was great. My husband knows everything about him. I wasn't prepared for how I felt emotionally though. My old friend and I did so much together and it took me back to a very exciting time in my life. I felt totally consumed by the past and felt so unsettled. My husband and I aren't getting on brilliantly. He had a diving incident and so has no hobbies or interests. He doesn't think its a problem that he has not spoken or seen one friend in 8 months. I have suggested he sees the GP as he said he felt tired, but hasn't. I arranged a date night last night which went well. I am also going to a counsellor. I have alot of resentment as when the children were small he was always away fiving at the weekends. The boys are 15 and 13 and I have said he needs to take them out now and then my other daughter is 11. I feel I have been the dad and I was the one who took them camping,walking,swimming. He comes home from work and sometimes makes tea after that he sits down until 10 or 11 watching telly or playing on his tablet. At weekends we all have to go out together at my suggestion. I have friends I see and I have other interests. O.k he doesn't drink, is good with money but can be so lazy. I moaned to the MIL and she asked what exactly do you want him to do ? The house needs decorating badly but its been me that does it. He is turning into his dad and said last night he doesn't want to socialise. Do I want a marriage like my inlaws ? Or am I just moaning for the sack of it. I am coming up to 50 soon maybe my hormones aren't helping !
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