This has been bugging me for a while. Ice gradually been withdrawing from my mum as I've come to respect her less and less.
For example, I was sexually abused as a child and when I told her she didn't really seem bothered. Just made jokes about the perpetrators as being known for being "nonces" in the family.
I don't ever remember any affection from her. Hugs, kisses, nothing.
Inappropriate discussions with her (eg she asking teenage me if her latest boyfriend was attractive)
There's loads and loads more. Basically she left me and my siblings with her abusive boyfriend - she was suffering from undiagnosed bipolar and also alcoholism so went awol.
We were then taken in to care.
It all came to a head, in my head, at Christmas and I couldn't bring myself to visit with the DCs and basically just ignored all contact with her. We tentatively started up contact again.
However she sent me a message today about a news story re a girl who was molested in a shop. Just baldly "did you see that story". Yes mum I did
She had a tough childhood (orphaned at 4, her mum died in front of her, she was abused and sent to an orphanage) so I understand partly why she is the way she is. But then again I don't.
I feel like there's a huge amount for me to process but part of that is for me to go NC.
I'm rambling now - thanks for reading - I just wondered if anyone could tell me how they've felt doing this and was it hard? Did they regret it?
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Wonder if I should go NC with my mum
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Believeitornot · 17/02/2016 21:28
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