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If you posted in 2013 about suspicions or wanting to leave can I ask where you are with it all now in 2016?

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DragonsCanHop · 15/02/2016 23:18

Just that.

Have you sorted it all out, are you still searching or not trusting, did you leave and how is it now or are your suspicions still there with plans to leave in your head?

I'm nostalgic whilst searching for my own oldest post and just wondered how you are all doing today and now [flowes]

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Cabrinha · 15/02/2016 23:29

I didn't post much! But about this time in 2013 I posted for info on a pattern of short calls to unsaved numbers on my husband's old phone. I wanted to know how that would fit with my suspicion (for years ) that he was using prostitutes.

This time in 2013 I had been in a sexless marriage (cos of the suspicion) for 5 years, and was worried about breaking up my 4yo's family.

April Fool's Day 2013 I dumped the cheating fucker, and 3 weeks later had put in an offer on a house, instructed a solicitor to file for divorce, and had proposed a settlement and child arrangements.

2016...
I've been divorced my 18 months. My now 7yo is a happy child totally accepting of having two homes and blissfully of the opinion that daddy and mummy are friends. (riiiiiggt...)
I'm settled in my new house, I have just got engaged and I have LOTS of sex, that I don't have to pay for

My XH? Has a new girlfriend. Is still sleeping with prostitutes. (My old neighbours have eyes, and tongues)

I am so bloody glad I dumped the prick!!!

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DragonsCanHop · 15/02/2016 23:49

Oh yes, the phone calls, weird text,lies and lies.

I just wish it hadn't taken me 3 years to rid us of him.

I'm hoping to keep the family home though, but everything else in is the starting process, early and horribly difficult times at the moment, so glad you are hoppier now.

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CantGetYouOutOfMyHead · 15/02/2016 23:54

I'm living alone with the children. After being lied to about the existence/reemergence of the OW, I finally uncovered the whole truth late 2015 and threw him out. Going through mediation to formalise separation (not in the UK; much longer process here).

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DragonsCanHop · 16/02/2016 00:18

Such early days here, he hasn't seen the DC for nearly 2 weeks but for good reasons in my defence and I'm just holding out for my solicitor app on Wednesday,