So I've spent all week working hard, looking forward to valentines weekend. On the way home from work tonight I called him to chat and he takes the opportunity to give me a long list of moans regarding what my kids have done.
"Right - ds1 went out without locking the door today. Ds2's room is a mess with pots on the floor. The toilet was not flushed and the bathroom door had something wiped on it".
"Right." I said "I just called to chat ... ".
"Yeah well I've been busy tidying up after everyone as usual ..."
Instant deflation. So it's going to be one of "those" weekends.
I get home and he's really off with me. Makes a sarky comment about how clean the kitchen is since he's done it (I do it too but that never gets recognised). I say "come on let's not fall out, it's valentines weekend and I've been looking forward to spending time with you". "Yes well the things I mentioned earlier have put me on a downer I'm afraid. You obviously don't care about the house but I do ... ".
I say "of course I care about the house but let's discuss it, not argue about it!". He replies "too late, you've already started arguining" !!!???
Anyway I've seen this pattern many a time before and it's just him trying to engineer an argument - it was half expected since he knew I was looking forward to the weekend. Anyway from that moment on he's done nothing but get at me all night. He's got at me for texting my friend (congratulating her on her new job!). For saying I'm going to retake up my hobby once I'm on annual leave (threatening that my selfishness will not make for a happy marriage), he's got at me for looking on my phone whilst he watched graham norton .... Literally every little thing since I got in from work he's got at me about. I'm not a soft person but I feel like crying. A few hours ago I was willing my shift to end so I could spend time with this man - no arguments, no bad feeling between us at all. Then I call him up and it's "oh btw, we've fallen out" and I have no fucking idea why. He's stormed off to bed now leaving me alone in the living room. Why does he do this?????
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Dp has decided we're not talking all of a sudden. Regular occurrence :-(
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