I instigated the split from my STBXH in January 2015 after years of his lazy arse sponging off me, not working, being an angry, difficult arse.
He made life difficult for 3 months & finally moved out at the end of March. The divorce is due to be finalised next week.
Home left is 100% better than it was. The DC are happier & I feel better. The issue is that I am so bitter & resentful towards him.
He has swanned off, pays nothing towards the DC, caused issues at every turn in the divorce & we still haven't sorted out the house situation because he wants money from me in order to agree to sign the house over to me. My issue with that is that in the 11 years we've lived here I have supported us after he decided to be self- employed without consulting me & then lay on the sofa waiting for work to come to him. And no he did not take the primary care role. I work full time & did everything else. If I needed help with the kids his parents would help (while he lay on the sofa).
I'm still so angry with him & myself. Him because he has never taken responsibility for his behaviour & me for putting up with it for so long. I just can't move on. I still think about all the things he did that annoyed me most days. I see posts from people who have had awful relationships & breakups but have met someone new. I can't even face the thought of being in a relationship. I think all men are useless arseholes & all have shitty attitudes & baggage.
I'd love to be able to let go of all of this anger & forgive myself & move on but I have no idea how. It's almost like a comfort blanket I need to throw away.
Any advice from you lovely lot would be much appreciated.
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Balders74 · 12/02/2016 21:25
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