Typing through tears.
He pursued me for months, and seemed like such a nice guy. We were always talking about everything and we seemed to have the same views on it all. Six months of "relationship" and all the way through it we got on so well and we were happy and he would allude to a future "the last girl I was like this with I ended up living with" or "I have never felt like this before" but he would avoid certain things like events with my friends and I felt like he had commitment issues. He said he did, but that he was just afraid of being hurt.
So for months I have been being patient of his "commitment issues" and have been led to genuinely believe that these issues were real and that we were a real thing.
Cut a very long story short, I noticed he was still on a dating site and called him out on it and we just had a really long talk and I just demanded the truth from him and he said he loved being with me, loved our chemistry and he thought about the future a lot and just didn't see me in it as a proper girlfriend but he 100% wanted to be with me now but if that changed and he met someone else and wanted to date them, he would be sure to tell me and then he was shocked when I would not accept that arrrangement!!!! He said he would still want to see me if I'd said the same.
Completely and utterly broken hearted. I honestly, honestly thought we were in love. I really thought this was it because we were just so happy.
I told him I never wanted to see him again and thanked him for finally being honest and I left.
And now he is messaging ME that HE is hurt and upset and can't stand the thought of not seeing me ever again and can he come round and can we talk and how what we have is amazing and how we have to see each other and how I have this power over him and how he cares about me and how we have something really special and all that.
I am realising all he really wants me for....or ever has...is sex. He said me being a little older and having a child didn't matter, that he wanted me, do you think that is why he doesn't see me that way?
Ugh it was so horrible. I am just so broken hearted beyond belief I can;t stop crying. I haven't felt like that about anyone in years and I was just so happy.
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