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FFS - where is the EA support thread?

(14 Posts)
tbtc20 Wed 10-Feb-16 20:24:29

Why is it so hard to find?
What do I need to search for?

To be fair I can't see much through my tears.

Sorry to swear, just feel so alone and crushed.
The divorce has been going on for ever and I think everyone's getting fed up with supporting me.

tbtc20 Wed 10-Feb-16 20:43:51

Never mind then.

kittybiscuits Wed 10-Feb-16 20:47:08

Hey, I've posted on the EA thread. Sorry things are so hard for you. What's happening?

tbtc20 Wed 10-Feb-16 22:24:17

I still don't see it, but thank you for responding.

kittybiscuits Wed 10-Feb-16 22:53:38

I've found it and bumped it for you. It was way down the pages.

tbtc20 Sat 13-Feb-16 19:21:31

I seem to kill any thread I contribute to. I see people post how MN helped them through really difficult times, but I just don't seem to invoke that sort of support.

I feel entirely let down by Womens Aid. Feel quite alone actually.

Justlurkingaround Sat 13-Feb-16 20:19:59

Hi there

Sorry you are feel let down. It's really tough feeling alone. If you are like me then posting on the relationships board is already a sign of loneliness and needing kind words. So it makes you extra sensitive to feeling ignored.

I know that feeling where it seems like other people get more help. Its easy to feel unlikeable. It's really not personal though. Obviously sometimes it's because a poster seems in immediate danger or particularly vulnerable. But I think sometimes it's just about the posts which people relate to so they have something to say. And other times its simply that posts feed into each other, ie a thread is bumped to the top by a comment and then people see it and comment, so the cycle repeats. Hit a quiet period and your post drops down and disappears.

Or in my case, I'm sometimes just a bit boring repetitive and confusing!!!

Sometimes Ive had threads with lots of posts, sometimes none! Who knows why?

I'm sorry I don't know what has been happening for you. I'm sorry Women's Aid have let you down. I'm maybe not great at advice but Im here if you want to tell me how you are feeling.

I need to be honest though - one if my children is a bit poorly so if I disappear i apologise, its to settle him. Please don't read anything into it.


tbtc20 Sun 14-Feb-16 07:29:17

Thank you justlurking.
I appreciate you taking the time to reply. Hope your little one is feeling better this morning.

Iamdobby63 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:58:51

tbtc20, sorry you are going through a hard time, sounds like it's been going on awhile now. How did women's aid let you down?

Justlurkingaround Sun 14-Feb-16 10:57:51

How are you today tbtc20?

tbtc20 Sun 14-Feb-16 11:35:46

Thank you.

WA let me down in the following way. I went to see a school liaison person who referred me to the local WA. They called, listened to my situation etc and said they would assign me an outreach worker who I could meet in person.
The outreach person txt me about 10 days later to ask whether they could call. It wasn't suitable right then, so I txt back a suitable time. No response at all.

I txt back the original person who said she'd look into it. Outreach person then txt again asking for suitable time. I told her. No response within a couple of days.

I then stropped off and txt first person to say it wasn't working for me. It's very stressful to be awaiting potential call when I'm trying to work or get on with my life (I recognise that this is partly my nature).

Outreach person then txt me AGAIN. I didn't want to shoot myself in the foot so told her I would contact her when I was back from a work trip. I did - no response at all.
I understand that the times I'm suggesting they call might not be suitable, but to get no response at all is poor.

I did not ask for an outreach person, it was offered to me. I know I am not the highest priority, but it's made me feel very lonely and let down.

I was really hoping I would benefit from their professional knowledge as well as emotional support.

It's been hard to reach out for help.

I am OK today. Been for a long run (the best therapy), and am just trying to avoid him before me and DS2 go and stay with my sis for a couple of days.

CamboricumMinor Sat 27-Feb-16 10:35:50

I'm sorry that you are having such a rough time.
Do you know that you can email and they will listen, I know this is in no way a substitute for real life support but it can help to have a friendly ear at the end of the email.
FWIW, I seem to kill every thread that I've posted on as well. I hope I don't kill your thread!
Did you have a good time with your sister?

Marchate Sat 27-Feb-16 11:41:40

Hello. You're having a really bad time. I know when things go wrong it feels like everything is awful. In good times we know that's not true, but when you're down already you don't need more hassle

Sounds like your local WA wasn't on the ball. Obviously they get busy, different people answer calls etc. But it has left you feeling more worried than you were

When are you going to your sister?

CamboricumMinor Wed 02-Mar-16 13:42:56

OP how are things now?

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