It was one of my best friends birthdays recently and we are all going out at the weekend to celebrate. She invited me way back before christmas and has recently invited everyone else.
There are about 27 of us going (including me and her). I know nobody else going. We are going for a meal. I asked her where we were going when she invited me and she said she hadn't decided yet. After speaking to the other 25 people, they have decided to go for pizza. My friends know I don't like pizza but I said I will go and have pasta or something similar but she said "there are no pasta meals on the menu, just Pizza. You can order a starter and just eat that." I'm fine with that because it's her birthday, so she can eat where she wants.
I met up with her last week and she said they are going for drinks before and after the meal. I haven't been invited to the pre/post drinks. She said "Oh, can't wait for my birthday,me and (listed other 25 names) are going for pre drinks, will meet you at the restaurant, eat and then me and (listed other 25 names) are going for drinks again after you go home. Don't stay too long will you. When we've eaten the meal, you can go. I'm not coming home with you either because i've planned to stay at (persons) house too, so you're on your own."
I am travelling for two hours to be at her birthday - She lives 2 roads from me (but is having her birthday out somewhere), so I assumed we would go together and travel home together. Me travelling by myself is no problem though.
I feel like such an idiot, travelling for two hours to pay to eat a bowl of potato wedges (or something similar) and then going home again. I will be travelling for four hours in total (two hours each way). I don't drive, so there's no issue with me not being able to drink and I have no reason to be home by a certain time/no kids to look after the next day. I am not one to get drunk anyway, so I probably would have had one or two drinks and then had soft drinks the rest of the evening - she will get drunk so I would have stayed sober so I can help her home etc.
I asked her about it and the friends house she is staying at is literally round the corner from where we both live as well. Her and this friend will both be getting drunk so I said "will you both be okay coming home?" and she went "Yeah, the pre and post drinks are gonna be a right laugh, shame you're not coming, isn't it?"
I am really quite hurt by this (i'm feeling quite sensitive at the moment
because i've had lots going on and have been struggling to cope - she is aware of this). She is one of my close friends and some of the people coming to her birthday are not people she really likes, they are coming to keep the numbers up - she has said this to me.
I am thinking about not going. I told her that and she just went "WOW! you ABU. Not coming because I haven't invited you to drinks. How shallow. I didn't invite you because we're all getting hammered and you'll just be sitting there like a loser on your own."
She is one of the few people I felt I could trust and now it feels like she doesn't even like me. I always go out of my way to help her out in any way I can. I'm not hurt over the drinks, i'm hurt because it seems like she doesn't want me there at all.
Am I being overly emotional for no reason?
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To not want to go to her birthday anymore?
toastandbutterandjam · 10/02/2016 10:23
I feel really quite 
on your behalf that you, and you alone, have been so specifically excluded from the pre and post drinks! I wouldn't go.
What a BITCH! Don't go! Go out with nicer people or do.spmethomg you love like a hobby or get all your favourite dvds, favourite food and drink and stay in do your nails, colour in, read magazines or whatever you enjoy and be happy. You don't need people like that in your life! 
She's not your friend. She's a dick head.
Please don't go. Don't make excuses though tell her why ( all the reasons listed above!). You don't need people like that in your life.
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Littlecaf I spoke to her about why I haven't been invited and she said
"I didn't invite you because we're all getting hammered and you'll just be sitting there like a loser on your own."
BlueFolly It does sound like she doesn't like me but I have no idea why. She told me yesterday she hates it when people leave her out and reject her
I haven't done anything to her recently apart from go and collect her at 5am from somewhere because she went out and had no money to get home! We've been friends a very long time which was why I thought maybe I was being a bit overly sensitive but seems not.
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