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Am I being paranoid or rational?

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SoleBizzz Tue 09-Feb-16 02:05:32

I have been no contact with my parents and Sister for ten years. My Dad is verbal and emotionally abusive.

I have not heard from the rest of my family for ten years either until tonight.

My first cousin contacted me on Facebook messenger. We had a nice chat and then he said his mother (my Auntie whom I was very close to growing up) had found me on Facebook.

My cousin then said he had told his Mother we were chatting and she wanted to know what had been said.

I asked my cousin to say hello to her for me and her reply was to say hello and she hopes myself and my DS are well.

My cousin also said that his Mother and my Nan talked about me and DS a lot and didn't know how my DS was doing (he is disabled) and they think that is a shame.

Then he went on to say my Nan is very fragile and forgets who her family are.

I think it is my Mother and not my Nan who wants to find out how we are by lpoking at my Facebook page!

My Auntie is on Facebook but has not requested me as a friend.

I think they're just being nosy. Should I block my cousin on Facebook before he gets chance to show my unsupportive Mother my Facebook page?

Tiggeryoubastard Tue 09-Feb-16 02:18:38

You sound paranoid to me.

SoleBizzz Tue 09-Feb-16 02:34:03

My Auntie and my Mother are close and live near to each other. I feel my Mother shouldn't have the privilege of seeing my DS who I have cared for and protected when she failed to protect me against my Father.

nattyknitter Tue 09-Feb-16 02:42:49

You can limit what people can see without defriending/ blocking them. I would just do that if you are worried. I can't remember how to do it, but google will probably throw up the answer.

Also from a difficult family and agree keeping some of them at arm's length is the best thing for my sanity.

Aussiebean Tue 09-Feb-16 07:33:51

How do you feel about telling your cousin that you don't want your mother knowing anything about you and you want her/him? To not show her.

Then decide based on their reply?

I thin you can limit who sees your pictures on fb.only certain people or groups that you make up, can see certain pictures. So look into that.

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